Make Sure you phone and tell them you WILL be having a third party there- firm and polite get this matter on a firm and formal footing from the outset. Bullying and racism are serious discliplinary matters and nothing to do with them should be on an 'informal basis' . And any HR d would be fine with this.
Not sure whether a police officer is the best choice as she is not a union rep or HR person who has experience of work related issues. I would postpone meeting and get it in writing what the objectives of the meeting are. I would definitely be represented but try and find someone with HR experience if you can. If not your friend would be ok. It is ok to have the meeting at home and this is not so unusual if an employee feels uncomfortable coming into work. At least you are on your own territory! It may be, if course, that the visit is a genuine attempt to sort out the problems.
She is here as a friend. I just think the fact that she a police officer means she knows about race laws and may come in handy for me.
The two people I know who knows the HR director say she is really nice and a good listener. The CEO suggested she come to my home to save me stress of going into work and to be honest I feel safer here.
I think they worried that I would take this to an external body which I wouldn't if they actually deal with it appropriately. I feel attacked and made to feel like I am in the wrong.
I wasn't going to make the racism a huge issue, I had told her it was racism and unacceptable and was happy to leave it at that unless she did it again. Then she actually put in a complaint about me saying she was a racist and went on to explain why using the word pa*i wasn't racism!! She actually ganged up with another woman who has bullied me over the last year, screaming in my face, being rude about my family, refusing to let me open the window in the office as she 'thin' and feels the cold more than anyone else and has a sensitive sense if smell so also door not allowed to be open.
The first reaction of my manager to me was 'racism is a very serious allegation' (IMO not an allegation but a fact considering her email) and that it was all a misunderstanding and miscommunication. From the start they wanted this to go away and not deal with it at all.
Now I know why they have such issues within the nhs!!
Said I got no case as racism not meant to offend me!!
Bullying wasn't even looked into just said no case as a respect issue and she needed to respect my privacy???
I then was moved to the office where last who carried out investigation sat. She was horrendous. Only called me she, slagged me off to a temp continuously ordered me to do washing up and get on tables to clean on top of cupboards. So can I count on the out one of the investigation being unbiased?? Obvious she has issue with me so I don't think so and she friends with racist lady!!
She really made me feel at ease and had not spoken to anyone about what has happened.
She was shocked that they had left me hanging with regards to not knowing what is happening at present and was shocked at the racism.
She is going to look into everything that has gone on and see if there is a case for the first investigation being redone due to bias and whether there needs to be a second investigation but there should be one in terms of the investigator bullying me.
She also agreed that I should have been suspended medically rather than signed off sick previously and is going to look into that too!
She is going to make sure I am updated each week too.
It was a very good meeting all in all.
Now I feel like I have been drained though. All of the anticipation and stress gone!!