Hello
I'm hoping someone out there can help with a work predicament Im in. Its a bit complicated but I'll try and explain it simply!!
I am currently 12 weeks pregnant. In the last year, I have had 2 miscarriages which I blame in part on an extremely stressful job. After the last miscarriage I experienced bullying from my boss, I believe because he was trying to force me into a position where I would want to resign (female employees on maternity leave is a pet hate for him). I stood up to him though and he did back off.
During that time, I was also in some discussions with someone else within the business who was interested in offering me a much more senior Group role. It would mean a lot more money and more profile in the company. We have got as far as verbal discussions on this role but nothing in writing.
To complicate things, for the past 4 weeks, my GP signed me off work as she was concerned with the long hours I was doing and the amount of travelling. I am due to return to work this week.
I have 2 issues:
- If I stay in my current role, when/how do I tell my boss I am pregnant and how do I handle any ongoing bullying (HR are in his pocket which makes it tricky)
- If I pursue the new role, at what point do I tell them Im pregnant? I feel like I want to be honest now, but the entire company is fairly mysogynist and Im not sure whether they will still consider me for the role given that there is only 5-6 months before I go on mat leave. There is no one else in the running for this role that I am aware of.
I hope that sort of makes sense! I have been doing my own head in trying to work out a way forward and still cant decide what to do!
Any thoughts/guidance would be really welcomed!
Thanks
Mele