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I am the boss ..... how would you feel if your boss did this(35 Posts)
I have a dress code for work and whilst my dh ignores it and dresses as he pleases (smartly as it happens but, for example, he doesn't wear a tie) I have always adhered to what I expect the staff to wear.
But do I have to - or, as the boss, can I get away with wearing what I like? I would be setting a bad example wouldn't I?
oops sorry xposted there maryb. And yes demotivating for staff.
So rather than walking away to take a paid job elsewhere - which I've no doubt is very tempting - could you get your DH to step back a bit? Take partial retirement perhaps? Or lead on a project that takes him away from the day to day management stuff so you can get the business into shape to either sell it or build it up to provide for your retirement.
The dress code is such a tiny thing. In the great scheme of managing your business does it really make that much difference? If you went in on Monday and said "Dear staff, I've decided to do away with the dress code" would it have a horrendous effect on your productivity/profitability/company reputation or would it actually make your staff really happy/more comfortable/more motivated? You really need to think about what actually matters. Does it matter?
If only I could get my dh to step back a bit - but no, I 've tried that.
Dh has on more than one occasion told the staff to ignore what I say - but he is so rarely there, it is not surprising they sometimes turn to me for a decision. And I totally agree that the dress code thing is such a tiny, tiny detail in the whole scheme of things. The fact that for the first time ever I just didn't care what I wore to work one evening just seemed to sum up in one tiny detail how completely fed up I am with the whole thing.
Dh has always hated the business - hence his reluctance to throw himself into it. But he somehow kept it going ok for the first 13 years(with me playing a minimal role) Then, when the children were older I began to take a more active role and we had a really good few years. But the recession has really hit us over the last few years. We are both getting too old to want to keep up with latest trends in the industry. We have no funds left to reinvest in the upkeep of the premises ....
I can't see any positives to hanging on.
I can earn double what we have jointly been earning per annum. Dh dislikes work of any sort but we have a big enough house that we already have one lodger and, if we get the appropriate landlords licenc, and the associated fire/gas/electricity checks then we could get a second lodger, and possibly a third. Dh's job would then be maintaining the house and he would 'earn' the rental income. Of course we could alternatively run a Bed and Breakfast business from home but there is no way dh would get up and cook breakfasts, nor would he deal with laundry or cleaning so I don't want to go down that route.
Have you taken any advice from an accountant as to how much it would cost to wind up the business? If you make your employees redundant they would be legally entitled to a certain amount. Walking away could cost you a great deal more than trying to keep it going.
And your Dh sounds like a liability or to use another word I've learnt on here - a cocklodger. He dislikes work of any sort? Don't we all if we're honest. But in the real world we all have to work to reap the benefits don't we and we know it and do it. I think your business is the least of your problems to be honest.
You could get the job and kick him out. Seriously, what does he add to your life? He comes across as a total loser, tbh.
Well, I'd demote your DH to 'lowly worker' and employ a manager. It would cost but probably repay you before long.
Otherwise yes, take the other job, sell the business and he can do the landlord jobs.
I would not be able to put up with him undermining me, while contributing less and taking less responsibility. One of you needs to be the boss at work and it sounds very much like it's you.
It's a lot more complicated than that AnnabelleLee as a partner/director in the business the OP will be liable for any debts that the business owes and could potentially be made bankrupt if the business/she/her DH cannot cover them.
She needs specialist legal/accountancy advice before agreeing to wind down the business as to what her liabilties are. There's a number of staff members who will be at least expecting the minimum redundancy payments they are entitled to. It sounds horribly messy. Please get proper advice op.
Well of course, I wasn't suggesting it was simple, I was more focusing on the personal relationship than the professional. but he ran the business before with minimal effort from her, so maybe he can go back to that?
No I know. Sorry I've had so probably didn't word my post brilliantly. He does indeed sound like a total loser. Perhaps the OP could sack him - if he was doing that bad a job - and appoint someone else to cover their roles whilst she does the new job?
Yes it is all very complicated. Marriage-wise it is also very complicated. But after decades of feeling trapped and totally unable to see a 'future' it is all beginning to fall into place.
I get to go 'out' to work - and earn money that will be in my control. (Dh is not good with money) We get to stay living in our big house. Dh would 'earn' an income from the lodgers and not have to go 'out to work'. The marriage is sustainable under those circumstances. My work could even lead to 'live-in' appointments which would suit me.
The business IS sale-able, so no need for staff redundancies/winding up. We have just gone through the redundancy procedure with one role in the business and it was unbelievable stressful!!! Not helped by dh being carted off to hospital and diagnosed with epilepsy the day before one of the crucial meetings.
Even if dh continued to run the business, he would constantly expect me to still 'fill in'. That is what I am fed up with - no recognition/reward and constant undermining from dh. I do understand why people say I should LTB - but that is really not an option.
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