Got my friend an interview for her dream job..... but....

[Toothache]

....she fluffed the interview and she just phoned to say she didn't get it!

I feel terrible! I encouraged her to get her CV up to date.... I even re-worded her job description so my Bosses would be interested in her. I put myself down as a reference (we used to work together)!

It was a job 3 times her current salary, in a much nicer place too. I assured her that she was able to do the job..... which she is!!! I had coffee with her this morning to calm her down before the interview.

They had basically told her that she was just coming in for an informal chat, so I thought she's got the job coz I got a right grilling in my interview last month!

Anyway, she was so excited and nervous.... and she got a total technical grilling at the 'interview'. Even though she knew the answers she said she just clammed up and jibbered like an idiot.

She's only 23 and it was her first major job interview ever..... so it's been good experience for her, but now I feel awful to have her go through that, get her hopes up, start dreaming about all the extra money..... then to have it all collapse with one phone call. I hope her confidence hasn't been shattered by this.

Do you think I did the right thing? Her current employer will probably offer her a better salary now (they were taking the piss paying her really low).... so hopefully some good has come of this.

[Toothache]

Should have pointed out that it was a job where I work.

[NomDePlume]

I thjink you did the right thing. You offered her the opportunity and things didn't quite work out. You are not responsible for her rejection. On the plus side, interview experience is always a plus and she may well wring a bit more cash out of her current employers. Short of sitting her interview for her, you couldn't have done anything more !

[PeachyClair]

You can only do your best, it was kind of you to do so much for your friens, and even if she didnt get this job, you have probably helped her out in getting the next: experience is worth a lot in interviews!

[MrsMills]

What a great friend you are! Going to all that effort for her, I'm sure she's more embarrassed thinking that she let you down.

I think you should both share a few bottles of wine tonight. It sounds you like both deserve it!

[Toothache]

Thanks everyone. I started to think to myself that she wasn't ready and I was so enthusiastic (too enthusiastic?) about her ability to get this job. It's definitely an issue with her ability to get the job rather than her ability to do the job.

I hope she doesn't feel like I've set her up for a fall. I really thought they were only giving her an interview as a formality!

I'm quite angry at my boss as he led her to believe the job was hers!

[WideWebWitch]

Toothache, not your fault, it's all good interview practice for her. Don't worry, you couldn't have done more!