My grandfather is 100 years old, is blind and has dementia although mobile and relatively capable. He lives in a great care home and has done for a couple of years. I live overseas and my father (his son) lives in the same small town as him so visits regularly.
Prior to my dgf's admission to his current home, he lived in a house and he had a driver / cleaner. This lady (we'll call her J) would take him shopping, keep the house relatively clean etc. J also (unknown to us at the time) had access to his bank accounts and pin numbers etc. We don't know how much, if any, money she took from him but my father has since obtained full power of attorney and is now in charge of his finances.
J keeps visiting my dgf in his care home. She hangs around the public areas "looking for a target" according to my df. He thinks she's looking to befriend a vulnerable elderly resident.
The home is refusing to ban J and my df says a restraining order will take 12 months.
In order not to dripfeed, the home owner spoke quite roughly to my dgf on Friday (witnesses by my df) and demanded that he tell her that he didn't want j to visit any more. My dgf responded with "who is J?". He feels shaken up by the whole questioning thing, my df doesn't want to move him from the home but doesn't feel that the home is helping with the situation.
Does anyone have any thoughts about this? What can we do?
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MyFriendsCallMeOh · 05/06/2016 21:41
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