Sorry but this will be long and I'm not sure if anyone has been through similar. Both my dad and step mum have Alzheimer's, I have two step brothers and none of us have POA. I wanted to arrange it after dad was diagnosed but dsm had always sorted out their financial affairs and wasn't willing to let anyone else take this on. my dad has had a rapid decline over the last three months and without going into detail he was detained under the mental health act almost two weeks ago. He has got worse since being admitted and has also had a fall fracturing his pelvis. There is no way he will be able to return home with the problems he had and my step mums memory is becoming increasingly worse. Every morning she calls me to ask what she has to do that day and I will have the same conversation three and four times a day but she just can't hold on to the information. After having seen my dad yesterday she has admitted that she could not cope at all with him and had said she is struggling herself. She has careers going twice a day to check on her meds and keep an eye on her. Today she has decided that she wants to move somewhere smaller and probably sheltered housing and that she wants to arrange a new will and POA. I need to speak to a solicitor about it all but does anyone have any ideas on how this works. They both had wills but as dad no longer has capacity his can't be redone.ive no idea if the house can be sold if he can't sign anything. I've don't know how long before dad will be able to leave hospital but he will need 24 hour care as he gets very agitated and doesn't sleep until the early hours and is incontinent though dsm misses him being at home she couldn't take this on herself even with carers, both myself and her GP were really concerned for her before dad went in to hospital and I think she'd have a breakdown if he went home. I wirk full time and live an hour away so can't just pop round but we speak several times a day. I want to support her as best as I can but I don't know how to stop her being lonely, the house is far from ideal so a move would be good but I'm worried that if it's done too quick she won't settle either. Any ideas and help would be much appreciated
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