Following on from my other thread about mum I wanted to ask some specifics and thought it would get lost on there.
So mum is settled in her nursing home. She is able to walk with a frame now but is still not eating. This has been going on since July. She is drinking enough and has the high calorie Calgen (?) shots. Her actual food intake is a couple of pieces of banana or a slice or two of carrot, maybe a biscuit, per day. That's it. Even with encouragement. She just covers her mouth and refuses.
Her weight has dropped dramatically. She is about 47kg and skin and bone. At one point, when she was admitted to hospital, she had stopped drinking but they remedied this and she is basically surviving on the fluids. Soft foods are no good either, she just doesn't want to eat full stop.
So, she can't continue like this forever I know. Obviously she has little energy, sleeps a lot, would like to stay in bed all day but they are doing their best to get her up and dressed every day, not always successfully. I think her body can't accept the food anymore, you can hear when a mouthful hits her stomach and it is uncomfortable for her. I think this adds to her reluctance to eat.
How long can she go on like this? the calories from the drinks and shots are keeping her alive but she is so weak that I think an infection would probably finish her off. Particularly as she is also uncooperative with medication. I don't want any interventions, feeding tubes or PEG is out of the question. I am wondering if they should stop the Calgen shots as surely these are artificially prolonging the inevitable? Or would that be withdrawing treatment? I don't know what I'm asking really. It is like being in a state of limbo, just waiting, it is only going to go one way.
Please or to access all these features
Please
or
to access all these features
Elderly parents
When someone stops eating
44 replies
DowntonTrout · 25/10/2013 12:51
OP posts:
Don’t want to miss threads like this?
Weekly
Sign up to our weekly round up and get all the best threads sent straight to your inbox!
Log in to update your newsletter preferences.
You've subscribed!
Please create an account
To comment on this thread you need to create a Mumsnet account.