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Please help. Extremely aged father died earlier this year, his last decades increasiongly frail and his final two years compromised with dementia. Horrible. I hated what the disease did to him, what it stripped him of ( everything that made him himself ). I did not enjoy visiting; I dreaded it. Didn't know what to say, how to connect with him.
Now mother is ill. I am her only blood relative left. I am fairly certain she is in early stages of the disease too v- her memory is certainly shot to pieces; her reasoning is at times bizarre.
And now it seems she may need a joint replacement. Which may or may not be successful. I think odds stacked on 'not' myself - which could well leave her incapacitated. We have a difficult relationship and today I feel so irrationally angry. I could wrench someone's head off.
I am not the saintly care-giver by any menas. If I'm honest, I resent it.
I resent all the paperwork.
I resent never being asked how I am
I resent never being offered so much as a hot drink at her house, which is miles away from me.
I resent the fact that my foot is hardly over the threshold before I hear a querulous voice saying 'Alice, I need you to....'
I resent that we don't have a better relationship
I resent the fact that her doctor is snarky and jobsworth with me.
I resent that she didn't look after me when I needed it. Yet I am expected to do it for her.
I resent I have to try and hold down a very stressful job as well as deal with all this shit.
I resent not getting a break between father dying and mother needing additional support.
Resentir, Fr, - to feel again.
I resent, and I need to let go.
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alicetrefusis · 24/10/2013 19:48
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