There are a few things I've had said to me regarding my father, which really irritate the hell out of me. " is your Dad better now?" Eh,no as I said he's got Alzheimers, look it up, it doesn't t get better it just gets worse. Also " so, have you sorted your Dad out?". No I haven't and FYI, you never " sort out" someone with dementia,you just deal with their problems usually 3 at a time and if you are very lucky you get a couple of days off before another 3 pop out at you. Those who have experience of dementia never ask that kind of question. neither do those with some imagination and empathy.
OK I realise I am being grumpy, and maybe what pisses me off too is they are part of that charmed circle, of persons whose parents are not dependent, and of persons who basically have not experienced misfortune. I ve heard people with cancer say similar things about people asking them dumb questions, and thought they were being a bit harsh, hey it s not your friend' s fault she doesn't have cancer and you do. But now I can see where they are coming from.
Please or to access all these features
Please
or
to access all these features
Elderly parents
Stupid things people say
7 replies
whataboutbob · 12/09/2013 21:21
OP posts:
Please create an account
To comment on this thread you need to create a Mumsnet account.