I went to get help my mum get dressed yesterday morning (as carer unwell) and found her still in bed, breathing heavily. I had called out gp again two days before as i wasnt happy with her breathing but gp just increased diuretics and reduced other heart medication as she said she couldn't hear anything on her chest. Anyway, I couldn't wake her so I called an ambulance and she was rushed to hospital. She had low oxygen levels, was very cold (didn't feel cold though) and fluid on her chest. She was given oxygen, warmed up, IV antibiotic as consultant decided it might be bacterial infection and transferred to a ward. Talking coherently on the ward to me. I spent all day with her, leaving finally at 8 pm as she was tired and falling asleep. Call at 6 am to say she had passed away in her sleep, no warning. Nurse said she had checked 15 mins before and bp, breathing etc was stable. She was 91 though and I am relieved she went quickly.
I have been feeling numb all day, cold and shaky inside. Haven't been able to cry at all, except briefly when I saw her at the chapel of rest in the hospital. Even DH is crying as he was very fond of her, but I can't. When my dad died (took over 2 weeks in hospital), I was crying all the time. Just feel terrible inside. Has anyone else ever felt like this?
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Zakinthos · 05/01/2013 17:46
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