Again...moaned to teacher via homework book that Leigh (AS age 8) has too much homework..............and cannot remember what is set. Tom age 11 has his set via a typed up worksheet every monday.....leigh has to remember his.
last night for example he was asked to catch upon missed homework from the past week...as well as do his usual homwork.....and the best bit is .....she insists on vebally setting homework.
I have expalined myself how he is a 'visual learner' and needs 'vesual prompts' etc....and 3 months ago (after I requested they do it) they asked the Outreach team to come into school to observe and offer advice/insight.
And as yet....no they have not come to school.
So..... back to last night,.....
1)write out 8 spellings
2)select 2 of them and write a sentance.
(that's the 'every night' homework
now his 'arrears'
3)Draw an Electric Circuit (from tuesday)
4)Write a Report on Animals with illustrations (from Friday last week)
Now.....he gets home at 3.30 and has melatonin at 7 so can be in bed by 7.45 ....he will then wake up naturally at 7 the next day.
so....4 hours to relax,have tea and do homework.
Now the schools attitude is that he ought to do homework as soon as he gets in from school....that sucks as thats usually when there is pandamonium as i 'unravel' his stresses of the day.
That said...I always ask him if he has homework- and what it is...that usually starts another shouting fit as he simply cannot remember.
so i have to 'trigger' his memory by talking about what he did today...as that is usually what the homework is based on...and sometimes we 'get there' and i then leave him to unwind before getting him to do it after tea.
Usually however..... he cannot remember.
He will ofetn 'suddenly' remember at 7 or 7.30....(as i believe he has fully relaxed)...and then insists he does it...no ammount of persuasion will make him 'leave it till tomorrow'....so for that reason i really don't think he 'deliberately forgets '...as an avoidance tactic.
So.......... io wrote a note...and the teacher replied (amongst other nuggets of similar drivvel....)
".....homework was set on friday......and i was quite clear about this -but Leigh may not have been listening ....then i remind the children as they line up to go home ...2
Now can U advise me of how i can tactfully 'educate' her that AS kids may appear to be listening....but may infact be 'thinking their own thoughts' and that she MUST use his name to specifically link him to what she is saying....as even at home if i call the boys to the table...i have to call each one separately...as enmass you can bet 1 won't respond.
Also...i suggested theyu get him to write a 'Trigger' word to remind him at home what he has to do...and they have thankfully agreed this is a good idea..... but can i build on it????
The school has no AS experience prior to my boys joining...so i respect they may not be alert to what strategies they need to use.....
I want to take some brief (not like my posts!!!) info in ...along the lines of..."this is to help you whilst you are waiting for the Outreach Team to visit'....and follow with "this works for me at home...so wondered if you can try it"
So have any of you got any favourite 'strategies' websites????
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ASpergers...mainstream school- no statement....Homewor"k ....Teacher says "he is not listening
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TheRealMrsF · 21/04/2005 21:37
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