I'm new here and really need some advice about my ds who is 6 and in year 2 at a private school.
He joined the school in November of last year, having spent his reception year at a state school.
When he first started at this school, he needed lots of encouragement to actually carry out written work. Verbal work,activities and reading were never a problem and the school state that he is in the top groups for all the core skills, English, maths, reading. He frequently required the teaching assistant or teacher to sit with them in order to complete the written work. On a few occasions, particularly in maths, he would end up not having done a single sum.
This resolved itself in that by the end of year 1, 90% of the time he was completing all the work, with the odd day where he was not and the teacher was pleased with this.
However, since the start of year 2 in September, things have seriously deteriorated and he now rarely completes any written work at school. Since returning to school after half term last Wednesday things have goen rapidly downhill.
On 3 occasions since last week he has actually ran out of the classroom and hid for upto 15 minutes immediately prior to being asked to do written work, either maths or English. On Wednesday he actually ripped his maths work book up and put it in the bin because "he didn't want to do the work".
At home, I have no problems whatsoever getting him to do homework of any subject, maths or English. He completes the work easily and quickly with no difficulties.
The head of early years believes he has a high IQ and would like him tested by an educational psychologist to check his IQ and to see if he has any particular learning difficulties.
Whilst I am happy to do this, I don't believe that he has a learning difficulty as at home he clearly has no problem doing the written work.
His vocabulary and understanding and general knowledge are very high for his age, and he reads exceptionally well. His spelling is also very good.
When asked why he runs away he immediately answers "because I don't want to do the work. I hate maths its hard and I hate writing its hard"
Again though, this doesn't tie up with what I see at home.
The school set up a sticker book system for him on Wednesday and every teacher that teaches writes in the book and at the end of the day the head of early years allocates him 1 or 2 stickers depending on his overall behaviour. He has 4 targets to meet, 1, Not to run away, 2, Not to use inappropriate language, 3, To obey instructions and 4, to attempt all work.
He got 2 stickers yesterday which he was really pleased. Today he went to school in a really good mood, was very positive about how he was going to have a great day and behave.
The school called at 11 and asked me to pick him up. They said he had been appalling and for the safety of him and the other children they felt he needed to be removed today.
Apparently he had refused to do his spelling test, pushed his books on the floor, kicked a child whilst changing for play time and in playtime been involved in a fight with another child.
The school say he pushed this child over and started kicking and hurting him.
He says that the ball was snatched from him, he chased the boy, the boy lay down over the ball to protect it from being taken, ds tried to take it back, the boy scratched and slapped him on the face ( and ds has lots of large red marks on his cheek). Two very different stories.
He was absolutely hysterical when I arrived to pick him up.
DS is not a violent child at all, I have never ever known him to hit anyone. He was in fact bullied by another child last year and at the begining of this term, and this was always physical, with ds coming home bleeding, bruised, cut etc.
I just don't understand where this has suddenly come from since last week. Nothing has happened at home.
I am so upset and distraught by this, sorry for waffling and I hope someone can offer some advice.
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feistyblue · 12/11/2004 14:40
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