DS1 very unhappy in new class

[JuniperDewdrop]

He's just gone into yr 2 and started off happy but now he says his teacher picks on his writing etc.. all the time. I know he'll be exagerating but I can't ignore him. His yr 1 teacher was a star. It was her first year as a teacher and she had a brilliant attitude with the kids. I know yr 2 is a different ball game but DS1 is very bright. His other teachers said he has great ability and there was no sign of him having any problems with his work. Lots of other mums have complained about this teacher and I couldn't understand why until now. She doesn't come across as very pleasant but I put that down to the fact she's just had a baby and may be sad about leaving him/her? DS1 has 2 different teachers, this one for 3 days and another for 2 days. He likes no.2 teacher. I was so angry yesterday when he told me what's been going on. She even berated him and said to the class 'guess who isn't listening again?' Maybe this is usual, I don't know? I'm just glad I've slept on it. I was all ready for Home educating yesterday! but DS1 loves his friends. He even said they're the only reason he goes to school now
Any advice would be greatly appreciated

[marialuisa]

Could you use a bit of reverse psychology on her? Go in and say that you're very concerned because from what DS1's told you he must be behaving VERY badly to be told off so much, can she tell you what the problemis? Then say you're woried it's getting into a cycle already because he's so unhappy...

My 9 year old bro's teacher was mortified when mum calmly told her that he was having nightmares about her (and in all fairness my dbro is a little bu*r at times but the teacher didn't realise that shouting and ranting was only exacerbating the problem).

Hugs to your DS.

[Miriam2]

No advice really but great sympathy. Having similar with dd this year,she has always loved schol but got a teacher this year who is rather gruff and shouty and dd is constantly worried about making mistakes or forgetting to take things in. In our case the teacher is long overdue for retirement and I think she should have already gone tbh! Your ds's teacher having left her own child is no excuse. My dh reckons it's a good lesson in life to get used to different people and their ways but I do worry that it'll put dd off school full stop. I hope that it's just a question of time for your ds to get used to this woman but obviously I would nip any particular issues in the bud.

[JuniperDewdrop]

cheers marialuisa, I'll give that a go

[JuniperDewdrop]

One little girl who in all honesty is an angel had to be dragged screaming to class at 11am. Her mum is really upset about it all

[Polgara2]

This is very interesting. Am having problems with dd1 and her Y3 teacher at the moment. Sounds a bit similar to miriam2 except for the retirement bit, no such excuse. So what do you say to the teacher - can hardly say well my daughter's problem is you actually! I too am worried about it putting dd1 off school for good.

[JuniperDewdrop]

Pologara2, I spoke to his teacher when I picked him up. I just went up to her and looked her straight in the eye and said he was very unhappy and I wanted an appointment with her. Turns out ds1 is a total perfectionist. she tells him daily how well he's doing, his work is spot on and she can't believe how bright he is. She spoke to him in front of me and he didn't deny it and agreed about wanting to be perfect. Mind you he didn't realise she liked his work so he's obviously taking any critisism to heart. She seemed nice but it's the first time I've spoken to her, we didn't get an introduction or anything.
I put no pressure on him at home as I don't think they should be so much put on them at a young age. It must just be his nature. Hopefully he'll be a lot happier now.