Hi, I am writing this in an attempt to understand my own inability to make a decision about where to send my children to school. Most of my friends locally will send their children to the state school, so it is difficult to talk about the fact that we are lucky enough to be able to afford other options. Sorry about the ramble, but I would love any advice! I have four kids age 9 down to 2, we live in a very rural area, and until now they have all been very happy in the tiny village primary.
My eldest is a bright, hard working, bossy, slightly arrogant, but complicated, emotional, occasionally insecure little thing, she finds change difficult, will do anything to be liked, is just starting to turn away from simple childhood stuff and is strongly influenced by her peers and surroundings.
The primary puts years 4,5 and 6 in together and she is learning mostly with the year 5s and year 6s, so next year she will be repeating herself and educationally I think she could do with more of a challenge. However that isn't the main reason for wanting to move her, it is more that a) we are thinking of sending her to a boarding senior school and I think she needs a stepping stone and b) she doesn't have great role models and friends in the village school (there are only two other rather bitchy girls in her year) so is changing herself in an attempt to fit in, and is becoming unhappy. I am also not thrilled by the sort of person she is becoming.
It isn't a problem with the school, just that particular year, her younger sister, age 7, has a fantastic year by comparison.
There is a good private day school 40 minutes away, but with three younger children, the commute would be upsettingly time consuming and the bus leaves so early in the morning it would be a crazily long day. However I am prepared to do that and I really like the (all girls) school. I would not want her going to the senior school I don't think though, and nearly every girl in the primary goes on to the senior school there, I don't think they would prepare her for entry to another school. In which case she would probably go there for two years and then move to a boarding prep for years 7 and 8. This is tempting, but I am worried that it is moving too much for her, especially as she doesn't like change very much. However, it would be good in that both my elder girls could go there and the younger one stay for three years before moving.
The other option is for the eldest to go to a boarding prep which is an hour and 15 mins away. It isn't the best prep school in the world, In fact it probably isn't dissimilar to the day school, but it does prepare children to go on to the big senior boarding schools and I really liked it when we went round. Is she too young at year 5 though?! And her sister would probably go in year 4! I burst into tears thinking about it last night. I went to boarding school at 11 and loved it, but there is a big difference between 9 and 11...
Once again sorry for the long post.
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Thirstysomething · 06/06/2016 13:01
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