We moved area a year ago & my children started at a new school. To be honest, although the school is lovely its a nightmare to get to & park sensibly/safely unless we leave the house at least half an hour before school starts/finishes. walking simply isnt an option im afraid because its down country lanes & quite dangerous Another problem (which i thought was a bonus when they started) are the small year groups & class sizes. In some ways its nice because children of all ages play together sometimes, but on the other side of the coin my dd has only 5 other girls in her year group to choose from as friends & since another girl joined the class earlier in the year dd seems to of lost her special friend to the new girl. she doesnt seem to be on the same wavelength as the other girls her age (dd is a tomboy) so either plays with older girls, the boys or with no one her sister is generally ok, but still has no special friend of her own & also plays on her own sometimes, or the girls play together.
Finally getting to the point (sorry its a bit drawn out) a friend whos dd recently joined the girls school has been offered a place at our local school. (This school is very hard to get into if you dont apply for reception when living in catchment) they didnt have places for my two last year when i phoned about places. I didnt ask to go on the waiting list at the time, didnt think id ever consider changing their schools again. But... the journey/parking problem has got progressively worse to the point its an absolute nightmare i spend the morning yelling at the girls to hurry up because we have to leave at some silly time to get to school only to spend 20 minutes waiting in the car. Its stressful for us all & IMO a ridiculous thing to have to do when we have a good local school 5 minutes walk away we would be able to leave the house at 845am instead of 815am, the girls & I would be less stressed out during the day, they would have more free time & we would actually get to know other children/parents on the housing estate we live in. At the moment we feel like outsiders in our own community because our children do not attend the local school, & because of this they havent got to know any of the local children so dont have local friends. Mantaining friendships from the current school is hard work because we are having a lot of work done on our house & havent been able to have many children over (except in the summer when they could use the garden) because of this they haven had many return invites.
This is all theoretical at the moment anyway, they only have a place for one of my girls & im actually pretty sure thats already been accepted by another parent at our current school. i have toyed with the idea of sending the dd they possibly have a place for to the school (my friend agreed to take her) & waiting for another place to open up, but who knows how long that would take? possibly another 2 years until dd is in the juniors & they can take more than 30 in the class, & all that time i would have to either continue nightmare school run or horror of horrors home education (which im not very confident about doing myself, but i do have a teacher friend who would help so it is a possibility) After their friends decision to leave their school & move to the local one I have mentioned to the girls about whether they would like to go to our local school themselves or not. Youngest is well up for it (but has no place) eldest (possible place) would go for it if her sister went but is generally happy & settled at her current school. My thoughts on her going to local school while her sister went to current school/home ed are mixed. It could be the making of her going to school without me, unfortunately she can still get a bit clingy about separation sometimes & is quite quiet & shy, but she has happily gone back alone to her friends house before. The separation thing simply wouldnt be an issue if she went with my friend, so in theory it could be a great confidence booster, or it could all go horribly wrong
Am i an awful mum to even consider this?
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SparklePrincess · 04/11/2006 21:19
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