What do you do if you have a complaint about a Headteacher?

[MelodicMum01]

For some time i've been concerned about the headteacher of my son's school. She pretends to be all sweetness and light, but other parents have said that underneath she is quite ruthless. i have two sons with ASD, both of whom are very bright and articulate, and luckily, both of whom have friends. But instead of getting any credit for their academic achievement, they've suffered a constant barrage of criticism, which first started when the school learnt of the diagnosis. Beforehand it was fine. The way the school & parents reacted it was as if i'd said he had leprosy. instead of being more understanding, they put him under a continual surveillance spotlight and blamed him for everything, even when it was other kids' fault. When he reported being bullied, the school turned it round and made out he was bullying, rather than admit there was a problem. Three mothers ganged up against me because of his diagnosis, but mainly 'cos it gave them an excuse to bully me because i come from a different background from them. i then discovered the headteacher was, and still is, friends with these three witches, one of whom childminded her daughter so she had a vested interest in defending the woman, otherwise it would reveal poor judgment on her own part leaving her child with such a person, and she socialises with them, which i feel is unprofessional as it leads to a conflict of interest. When one of these womens' kids bullied my son, the HT wouldn't believe it. She even tried to get my son excluded behind my back, but i thwarted her. it's hard enough parenting kids with difficulties at the best of times, but this was a very lonely and low time for me. At this time i was subjected to a number of verbal assaults & threatening behaviour by the women in question). Once my son went to secondary school (he was voted Head Boy, but the headteacher wouldn't allow him to be, sayng he was a bad role model) she started on my younger son, and forced me to get him also assessed for ASD through her constant complaining about petty low level issues as if they were major. it began to feel like i and my children being victimised. When i looked into how to file a complaint about a headteacher it said "complain to the school" which hardly seems likely to help! The last straw came recently when she got hold of my son's prVate diary he had accidentally left in school, read it, and has started making an issue of stuff he and his friends wrote/drew over a year ago. Has anyone else experienced this sort of thing and does anyone know how V can make a complaint about a headteacher? Thanks x

[TeenAndTween]

If I wanted to make a complaint about a HT I would write to the chair of governors.

However, I suspect I would be likely to remove my child from the school first.

If I did want to write a complaint I would do my very best to ensure it was:

• factually written, evidence based wherever possible, with little emotion
• clear exactly what I was complaining about
• clear what I wanted to happen

[Edna1969]

Agree with TeenAndTween my route would probably be the chair of governors too.

My DDs school has a complaints ans comments policy which is meant to help you through the process (fortunately I've not had to use it).

Sounds like you and your sons are having a horrible time. Have you considered moving on? I'm not a fan of running away but there comes a point when you have to leave. I also suspect that a formal complaint could make things worse for you.