My ds1 is in Yr5. We live in a rural area with only 1 secondary comprehensive local to us. I attended this school from YR9 onwards, having been educated privately until that point. My experience wasn't great - not terrible but not great. The school itself is okay and I am sure my ds will do fine here but I am not sure he will thrive. There are certain things which are really important to me educationally and I am not sure that my dc will get them from this school.
We have 1 grammar school local to us too. Ds is going to sit the exam but it is a super selective and whilst he is a bright boy, he is not super academic. He goes to a tutor once a week and we do some work at home but I am not going to push him. If he gets in, then that's fantastic but if he doesn't I don't want him to feel like he has failed. This school seems to offer everything I would like for my children both educationally and pastorally.
We also have a number of independents which are within travelling distance.
I am completely torn as to what to do. We have 4 dc. As it stands we could just about afford to send two of them to private school. I am planning on returning to work after the little one starts school which would mean we could probably afford to send all of them. This will however, significantly impact on our lifestyle. So whilst they might be getting a better education in school their education outside of school would be limited to what we can afford. Also if ds doesn't get into the grammar and we opt to go down the private route do we have to do that with all of them? My dd1 is in Y3 and is currently G&T. Would it be wrong to send her to the grammar if she got a place?
My parents (whom we are very close to) are also very against selective education. Their (limited) experience of people who come out of the private system is that they are very snobby. I have a feeling some of this is down to jealousy rather than anything else but I wouldn't want them feeling differently towards our children because of how we choose to educate them.
In some respects I find it sits much more comfortably with me for them to go to the local comprehensive. There are however some big gaps in the one school near us and I am finding it really hard to reconcile this with my desire to give them every opportunity we can.
I apologise for this epically long post and the abundance of waffle. I am in such a quandary. What would you do and do you have any experiences to share that might help me in my decision making process?
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jenniferalisonphillipasue · 01/10/2014 23:58
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