Poll: Would you rather...?(38 Posts)
Would you rather your pretty-average, not too terribly gifted DC attend:
A) a school with a relaxed attitude to academic study, not likely to push your DC. However, DC is likely to be middle of the class with mediocre grades. DC is likely to enjoy being at this happy go-lucky school, which is fine except that I am the one worrying about their academic future.
B) a school full of over-achievers, teachers who push DC and provide a strict study environment, and generally high standard of teaching and learning. Risk is that DC will likely be at the bottom of the class wrt grades, which might knock confidence but can benefit from being influenced and inspired by tough teaching ethos and other DCs who are "reaching for the stars".
Please vote! Thanks!
No chanceof a school whoch is nurturing and expects high achievement?
If not, I'd say B.
I couldn't stand knowing my DC was settling for an easy life and thus under achieving.
Can B really be stuffed with over achievers? Really? If so, how do you know your DC will get in?
How do you know that school A has a relaxed attitude to academic study?
Have you been in the classrooms for each of the ability groups?
How do you know that school B provides high standards of learning?
If its selective, the job is half done before the school day starts.
There is a lot more to schools than Ofsted reports and raw exam results.
Also, as stated above, B can only be full of Brainiacs if it's selective. If your son can get in, he must be more capable than you're giving him credit for and the school must think he can cope. He might be towards the lower end of achievement for that school, but he will probably still do better academically than at A.
Also, even though he might be happier at A during the years he's there, that doesnt necessarily translate into greater life happiness because better grades = better and greater life options.
B, assuming he gets offered a place.
Tough - if school B is selective then it can be sapping to be bottom, and the teachers might not be as inspiring as the children will probably learn and do well anyway - certainly my experience at a selective school - some teachers were great others wouldn't have survived five minutes in a different school (think falling asleep in lessons after telling us which pages to read).
School A however might have a number of children who are disruptive and who take advantage of the situation. Also I know that dd1 works harder because she sees other children around her working and aspiring - not convinced she would do that in another situation. Dd2 and ds, so far seem to want to work/ learn regardless of peers.
If B isn't selective I would go for that, if it is selective then I would consider some tutoring for familiarity with the format but not enough to really hothouse the child and just see whether they pass - there will be other children who have been tutored out of their little minds who then will not actually be as academic as your dc. Also discussing with your dc as they progess through the school is important so that they realise that their school has some high achieving children but it doesn't mean that they too can't succeed.
Would DC get into B? It sounds as though it is selective.
I went to a school very much like A for GCSE years and A levels. If you are at a school where self motivation is required I think that is the best atmosphere in which to prepare for life after school, be that university or work. I was at university with a lot of students who went to very pushy, competitive schools who crumbled due to not being used to working for themselves and being expected to structure their own learning.
Obviously it depends on other factors and not just the academics, but I would go for school A.
Thanks for all your views! I am leaning towards B now. Primary school is A and secondary school is B and given that DC will be in year 7 next year, I think it's time to switch so thanks to all who made that suggestion and showed me the light! Grades do matter and if they leave school happy but with no qualifications I'd be pretty hacked off! Love, support and happiness will come from home, school is for education. That's my conclusion but I still welcome views to convince me that I have got it wrong!
I would ask what B does with the less high achievers? Does it give options to go to the local FE college from 14? Do they do BTecs? And so on.
B could describe my DCs school, but it does also offer great opportunities for those who are "less academic".
noisyhome Wed 04-Sep-13 12:36:17
"Love, support and happiness will come from home, school is for education. That's my conclusion but I still welcome views to convince me that I have got it wrong!"
I wouldn't put it quite like that. If things go badly wrong at school and there is no support, even the most loving and happy home may not help.
Dd went to a junior school which was not great at pastoral support. Looking at the dd I thought I had (academic, motivated, well behaved), I did not foresee any problems. A few years later she had developed medical problems, been completely unsupported by the school and ended up developing a school phobia that carried on into (her totally supportive and lovely) secondary school and culminated with her taking an overdose one day just before the start of school because she could not make herself believe that the school could be understanding about her stress levels. I believe we have been as supportive and loving as any parents could be. But we nearly lost dd that day.
Of course there is absolutely no guarantee that a school with a poor academic record will be any better at pastoral care. Often schools that are a bit crap are a bit crap across the whole line. The worst secondary we looked at were unable to answer any questions about pastoral care except in the shape of fluffy cliches about how they value each student blah blah blah. Otoh her very caring secondary had good exam results too.
But I would never assume again that any child of mine may not need a support net.
So I would speak to the schools, ask them questions, how do you deal with pupils in x, y and z situation. You may even find that it is the B school that is the most clued up.
DD2 pretty much choose A herself by refusing to do the 11+
Suits her just perfectly as gets discouraged if she isn't reasonably near the top of the class. She likes to see her hard work is achieving something.
Also she loves sports and at the grammar a lot of Girls have been to private/large town primaries and played Netball and hockey really seriously in Y5/6. Her little primary didn't.
Her big comp can happily field two teams and give everyone the chance to learn.
Also I'd worry B would dole out heaps of HW and a lot of HW before year 10 stops DCs enjoying their extra curricular activities for no academic gain what so ever.
I agree with Cory.
Yes, of course grades matter - they matter a lot after Y10 - but happy children/people work better, and learn better.
So definitely check out the pastoral care/support/happiness of children at school B. If it checks out well, then obviously go for it
(Would add that some kids, like the last poster's, do better when not in hugely competitive environment. So it does depends on the child)
I think you often feel a lot clearer after looking around, at least once.
If school A seems tatty and unloved and the children seem lacklustre or whatever, you might feel the more relaxed attitude isn't worth it.
If school B seems a bit grim and unfriendly (as one comprehensive sixth form here with a good reputation for results did to me) you might feel the pushing isn't worth it.
On the other hand if both seem great in different ways, you're just as confused as before, of course!
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