My 4-year old daughter (5 in April) started in reception in Sept. At the beginning, and again in the last few weeks, she got into the habit of refusing to sit on the carpet when the teacher asked her to. Also, lately on a couple of occasions she has refused to do a piece of written literacy/numeracy work (well within her capabilities - she's one of the best readers in the class) and got into trouble for that.
Class teacher is very nice but in her first job and has decided my daughter's behaviour is a real problem. Asked me to come in and discuss how to deal with it/what we did at home.
I suggested various things to do with encouragement and confidence building. I also explained that going head-to-head in a confrontation never works with her (although of course I do it all the time!) - whatever you threaten (eg missing break/golden time) daughter will say 'I don't care' and will NEVER back down. But my main view was that if they ignored the behaviour, my daughter would stop. Teacher said she couldn't ignore it because of effect on other kids (ie she fears they will join in and refuse to sit down or do work etc).
My view is that they are giving daughter loads of attention for misbehaving and this is likely to cause her to keep on doing it. It is not going to be any fun standing at the other side of the room refusing to sit down if they ignore her. And they can tell other children - daughter is not joining in, it's a shame, I'm sure she'll come if ready.
Should I keep trying to convince teacher to ignore it? Not up to me to teach her her job, but equally don't want things to get worse for my daughter?
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4 yr old won't sit on the carpet!
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ELD · 11/02/2004 14:27
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