do you attend your child's school swimming lessons? If so, why?

(61 Posts)
umbrunion Thu 13-Jun-13 09:46:29

Just a thought. It has never occurred to me to attend and yet some parents do. This is assuming your child is nt and that the school hasn't asked you to go.

School are trying to discourage parents from attending btw.

Sommink Thu 13-Jun-13 21:58:36

We have lots of parents watching our school swimming lessons, the spectator area is upstairs over the pool so doesn't intrude. It's a public building, we can't stop them, but we make sure no one takes photos etc of the lesson.

jo164 Fri 14-Jun-13 16:53:45

kilmuir - I don't think there is any legal reason why they cannot go into the changing rooms to help if CRB checked - it just satisfies neurotic parents that only the class teacher's will be in there.

ShoeWhore Fri 14-Jun-13 16:59:22

I've been on a rota of parent helpers who help escort the children to and from the lesson - but scarpered for a coffee for half an hour while they were actually swimming!

piprabbit Fri 14-Jun-13 17:03:04

Dear god - I can't imagine deciding to gatecrash a school lesson, just because it wasn't on school premises.
It's akin to the loony mums who hang around the playground fences and wave at their PFBs during PE lessons. Or the carload that followed a class trip to the zoo and then loitered around the children.
Loons.

RoooneyMara Fri 14-Jun-13 17:06:13

OP, why does it make you uncomfortable?

I couldn't care less if any of the other parents went along to watch.

I've only been once and it was a mixture of things...one, I'd been worried about the level of supervision and wanted to reassure myself that they were being properly looked after. (the teaching was good, but not enough adults around imo, I don't think they were trained to rescue anyone who got into trouble either - or dressed for it!)

The second reason was that me and ds2 & 3 had to be somewhere nearby to meet my mother at an awkward time, so we dropped off ds1 and hung about for half an hour.

It was fine - I watched ds putting one foot on the floor, and other swim fails grin and also watched my friend's son who is practically a professional swimmer, doing his turns and so on which was amazing. And had a good chat with her, as she was standing in as a 'walk back to school' person.

Seriously - what is the problem?

RoooneyMara Fri 14-Jun-13 17:09:09

I would draw the line at getting into the pool and joining in though. grin

It's like this family we know...every time one of their children is invited to a party, the whole family turns up and STAYS... and wait for it... brings their own FOOD.

It is hilarious grin Everyone is mucking in and there they are sat next to it, having a picnic.

exoticfruits Fri 14-Jun-13 18:52:07

There is no need for anyone to help a child get changed (unless they have SN) they all just get on and do it if they know that no one will do it for them.

bluegiraffe Fri 14-Jun-13 19:40:32

parent's are forced to be at our school swimming lessons, seeing as we are responsible for getting them to the pool, getting them changed and then getting them back for school afterwards! ... and there is a Rota of parent helpers to assist in pool where required and on poolside.

sandiy Fri 14-Jun-13 19:53:57

I spent 3 summers in the pool helping.Its an outside pool and it was freezing.Why? Because I was convinced they would drown while no one was looking.Since my kids learned to float and swim I stopped bothering.Even with a small but dedicated group of helper mums I still thought it was chancy at times and pulled up a fair few tiny ones who were convinced that they could swim but really could nt.

We have one lesson per term where parents can watch the lesson, but you have to stay on the viewing balcony and can't help with changing etc.

piprabbit Fri 14-Jun-13 20:06:12

bluegiraffe shock what on earth do working parents do?

RosemaryandThyme Fri 14-Jun-13 20:34:49

Those that hang around are just nosey.

They are totally there to compare their kid to others, and trying to claim your not and just coffeeing with mums is tripe - no one in their right mind would voluntarily go to a noxious swimming pool cafe for real mum chat time.

Same as the "art" displays in every class - parents just are soooo not looking at their own kids work, its' voyueristic snooping.

As for LEM and the "I'm a helper" brigade - just accept you've too much time on your hands and unglue yourself from your poor smothered children.

Sparklingbrook Fri 14-Jun-13 20:52:11

I wasn't Rosemary but thanks for saying I am not in my right mind grin. DS1 could swim at that point and the pool was half a mile away so it was no big deal. As I said upthread we were so busy chatting we didn't see anything in the end.

Nothing noxious about the cafe either. Nice tea and wholemeal toast IIRC.

RoooneyMara Fri 14-Jun-13 20:55:56

Eh? Rose I think you need a brew

Sparklingbrook Fri 14-Jun-13 20:57:37

Without the 'helper brigade' some schools couldn't go swimming.

RosemaryandThyme Fri 14-Jun-13 21:26:13

Well perhaps you are nice - but I really felt for one of my Dd's friends when two pool-side mums' actually sniggered at her from the safety of the viewing balcony, she is the class chubby girl and as a previous class chubby myself, my heart went out to her.

bluegiraffe Fri 14-Jun-13 21:28:50

piprabbit, I AM a full-time working mum! The lesson is at 9am, so same as dropping them at school anyway, Then a lot of "us" (working parents) arrange for another non-working parent to do the return to school part. Luckily, I can WFH that day too, saving time travelling.

lljkk Fri 14-Jun-13 21:29:36

If MN threads are any guide, a lot of people attend because they don't trust the school to conduct the lessons safely.

Sparklingbrook Fri 14-Jun-13 21:39:26

I think we started going out of curiosity more than anything. He was my PFB which probably didn't help. We just wanted to know what sort of form the swimming would take. School communication wasn't great and DS1 never told me anything.

As the weeks went on it was more about the chatting and eating than anything the pupils were doing in the pool.

Ds1 would throw me his wet gear on the way out to the coach. grin

LEMisdisappointed Fri 14-Jun-13 21:45:30

RosemaryandThyme, gurl - you got issues hmm

Chubfuddler Fri 14-Jun-13 21:54:15

Blimey. I don't give a monkeys if other parents are hanging about but really, it seems a bit Klingon to me.

NB ds's school has a pool and has never requested parent helpers. Doesn't stop some of them weirdos.

TheBuskersDog Fri 14-Jun-13 21:55:50

I'm rather concerned at the amount of people saying they were helping with changing or actually in the pool, or are concerned at the adult child ratios.
When we take a class of thirty children we have four members of staff, three who instruct and then usually the class teacher who stays away from the pool. We also have a higher level external instructor. The children are then taught in four groups according to level of ability. Nobody is even allowed poolside (including the class teacher) if they have not been trained.

The children do not need help with changing apart from an occasional child who has SEN, and then we have an extra member of staff to meet their one-to-one needs.

exoticfruits Fri 14-Jun-13 22:05:52

I have found the same TheBuskersDog, except that we have taken parents to fulfil the adult/child ratio. However they do not help with changing- there is no help with changing -and the children are taught by staff at the pool. The pool isn't open to the public in a schools session therefore there are no spectators.

LEMisdisappointed Fri 14-Jun-13 22:06:55

Why the fuck is anyone "concerned" about this?? My DDs school needs four helpers to take the kids back to school as they walk. I live 2 minutes walk from the school - i stay to walk them back. The pool i separate although we can see through glass partition. No one really watches the kids, too busy gassing. The ratio has to be 6:1 otherwise they are not allowed to walk them. Parents drop off at the pool, it takes ooooh, all of an hour out of my day. No cafe though, just a minging coffee machine

Startail Fri 14-Jun-13 22:09:17

I've done standing in the rain at the outside pool, purely because I couldn't think of an excuse quickly enough.

Last year they wanted volunteers in Wimbledon week, it was definitely someone else's turn.

Certainly didn't go to watch DDs, they are both fish, who could swim before starting school.

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