Bullied by a teacher.(60 Posts)
My 9 year old daughter was bullied by her class teacher. It started in September and we have been back and forth to the school. My daughter had always loved school and had an excellent relationship with all her teachers until this year. The problem was the more I complained and the more the school put in place to protect my daughter, the more the teacher bullied my daughter. Eventually a full time teaching assistant was put into place and the school was very supportive. The obvious bullying stopped.
Then it started again in March. I didn't go to parents evening and I believe that is what angered the teacher. I made a formal complaint and a meeting was held with the governors. The Head then denied everything that had happened. However her lies soon fell apart and she admitted it had happened. The teacher had been advised by her union not to attend.
However when they sent the findings of the panel they just said the teacher had lacked judgement.
I had to remove my daughter from the school as she was having the most horrendous nightmares and was being sick at the thought of returning. I have a son in the school and can't juggle two schools. There is no school that will take them both. I have tried to move her up a year for the last 6 weeks of school. She is very advanced for her years and was supposed to be spending some lessons in that year anyway. However they have said no and will only allow her to move down two years which my daughter would find humiliating.
They have offered her to move into the parallel class but as this is next door she would have to walk past the teacher morning and afternoon to get into class. The teacher has a history of going out of her way to be vindictive to my child so I have no doubt that she would come into the parallel class often to intimidate my daughter. I thought if she was in the year above for the next 6 weeks it would be an acceptable solution. The teacher wouldn't be able to make excuses to go to her classroom as alarm bells would surely ring with other teachers and my daughter would still be able to go to school. She was put on the G&T register over a year ago but the school did nothing despite promising various things to challenge her. She definitely wouldn't struggle in that year for the last 6 weeks. The class she would be in is round the other side of the building so contact with the teacher who bullied her would be minimal. She would be able to spend lunch times with her original class and in September she could join the class again. The school are now reporting me to the welfare officer but I can't send my daughter back to that year. She used to be such a happy confident child and now she is a wreck. She wouldn't cope knowing every time the door went it could be that teacher.
She has been through so much already. The teacher has totally destroyed her and the worst part is the school know that she did it, the governor's know that she did it but nobody is prepared to stand up and be counted. It's all about protecting the school's image.
I have contacted the Department of Education and Ofsted but they all take time to process. My daughter has been out of school for 4 weeks now. I've spoken to the council but they will only intervene if she is below the national average or has special needs. Does anyone have any experience of this?
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Thanks everyone. I think maybe I just have to see what the Welfare Officer says. I imagine they will be round next week when she doesn't go back. As I have still not heard from the D of E or Ofsted I guess they are still looking into it. They haven't said anything other than they will be in touch once a decision about whether they can investigate has been made. This should be in the next week.
Failing that I am going to have to hope the Welfare Officer looks through the whole complaint and either agree to her being off for the next half term, (probably not likely but maybe under some kind of flexi learning agreement which was suggested earlier) and going back in September. Or argue my case for her moving up now into year 5. However if they can help facilitate a move to another school, even better.
I will keep you all updated and hopefully have some good news soon. I think you are so right Schmaltzing Matilda, persistence and stamina is what will make the difference. I have all the paperwork and witnesses etc. It's just a case of fighting my daughter's corner until someone does something to help her. I hope!
The welfare of the child should be paramount so hopefully the EWO will be able to suggest a practical solution. A new school might be the best option if your dd is happy to move.
Will be interested to see if Ofsted can investigate this matter - it might fall under the category of 'Leadership & Management'. I also have raised some concerns to them and am awaiting a reply. In my case though some illegal actions have been taken so I am hopeful that they won't turn a blind eye to that. The actions were taken to uphold the schools reputation and maintain their Ofsted rating which is clearly deemed more important than the education of a child
Does your LEA have a 'children not attending ' team?
Rainbowsock I hope they do investigate your case. It seems to be the case that too often turning a blind eye to these situations occur. I'm not sure about the LEA having a 'Children not attending team'. I didn't know that such a thing existed. I will ask them. Thanks
Received a letter from welfare today. I have a meeting in just over a week with an attendance panel. Fingers crossed they will look at the reasons thoroughly and my daughter can get back to school safely.
That's good - things should start moving now to get your dd back in education.
Have you heard from Ofsted yet? I am getting impatient to hear from them myself.
No not yet. They said 20 working days but it has been over that now. When I called they said they were dealing with a backlog and couldn't say when they would get back to me. It's so frustrating. I should have heard back from the Department of Education also by now. They said 15 working days but I have heard nothing.
It's a much slower process than I thought it would be. I wonder how quick it would have been dealt with if it had been my daughter bullying a teacher. Silly question.
All we can do is wait...and hope at the end of this Ofsted come good in the end for us both x
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