prep schools in Surrey/West Sussex/Hampshire that would stretch 2 bright children, while catering for the social needs of the one with ASD

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KarlosKKrinkelbeim Fri 15-Feb-13 19:00:50

I am in something of a niche so far as schools are concerned as you will see from my thread title. I have DS (6) - has ASD, has a statement, 1-2-1 in class (recruited and trained by us) and doing well academically. Social skills progressing but still a looooong way behind the academic skills. I also have DD who is 5 - also bright, very sociable and fitting in well. But quite shy, thrives in small group and would struggle with a large class size in my view.
The school they are at currently is very small, friendly (up til now, tho DS seems to be starting to be excluded from things - only child not invited to parties etc, usual stuff) and we chose it mainly because of the social rather than the academic needs of the DC. But I am increasingly feeling too much has been sacrificed to this.
Neither is being stretched and challenged sufficiently on the academic side and I perceive a danger of disengagement. And to be blunt, if DS is starting to suffer from the exclusion that kids with ASD are classically subject to, we may as well go for a more academic environment which caters for him and DD on that side of things.
If you have got to the end of this, congrats. we are renting our home currently and thus have a free hand to move to a school within the above area, subject to my need to commute to London. Any ideas/suggestions gratefully received.

lovelazysundays Thu 14-Mar-13 18:41:45

Ashdown House? Excellent Learning Support and high academic standards. Lovely area too - on the edge of the Ashdown Forest. Known as a boarding school but does have a growing number of day pupils.

Buttercup38 Sat 23-Mar-13 09:59:09

Whichever school you choose has to offer the level of learning support your child needs - as well as your child having the ability to be able to cope with the curriculum demands. There's absolutely no point in pursuing a school if that criteria is not met.

Incidentally, I toured Windlesham House School, met knowledgable and friendly staff (from the reception, admissions, teaching staff...) and saw high-calibre work the children had produced in various subjects (geography, science, DT, art...). They have great facilities, many of their graduates have won a mass of scholarships (amongst the rest many have been accepted to very selective schools) and they rate highly in various school reviews. I was very impressed.

lottie4576 Mon 19-Aug-13 18:50:17

It sounds like you should probably go down a small prep school route with small classes. Tavistock and Summerhill could possibly suit you! Small classes, small school and the kids there are lovely probably the nicest pupils of any school I've been to

Inclusionist Mon 19-Aug-13 22:34:29

I would suggest looking at schools that specialise is supporting SpLD for your DS as there is a commonality in some areas of executive dysfunction between ASD and dyslexia/dyspraxia. Bruern Abbey maybe?

Failing that a school with a strong Learning Support department. My DS is going to Lambrook which achieves scholarships to decent schools and prides itself on it's learning support.

duchesse Mon 19-Aug-13 22:42:17

DS and DD1 went to Yateley Manor, which was very good 10 years ago at stretching them and also coped with DS who has ASD type issues. They were very good with behaviour management. It's been a few years so I don't know what it's like now though.

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