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Do you like the other Mums in your childs class ?

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AngelaD · 08/04/2006 09:43

We had a meeting of all the Mums in my daughters year and the wine started flowing along with a bit of a bitch about the other Mums that weren't in attendance, just made me think what do they say about me when I'm not there.
Do you all meet up away from school or keep yourself to yourself ??

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TinyGang · 08/04/2006 09:51

I've become more friendly with a few - especially the ones whose children my dd is especially friendly with - but I don't have a regular social life with them (other than the occasional makeup party or whatever). I'm very happy with that. Friendly on a breezy daily basis, but I doubt I'd start confiding in any as best friends.

I've no idea what they say about me - if they say anything at all really. They don't seem like that to me, but I suppose you never know.

I would say to be careful though, these things have a way of getting back to people.

Spacecadet · 08/04/2006 09:53

yes, i like 99.99 percent of the parents in ds2 class(reception), we have formed a very strong friendship group with about 10 of us getting together on a regular basis, we never bitch about anyone, just have a good laugh, im moving in a few weeks and im going to miss them terribly.

jampots · 08/04/2006 10:18

Im friends with a few mums of children who my dd went to primary school with and friends with a couple of hte mums who she is now at secondary school with but not in a proper social way just "cup of coffee" way. Now ds has moved schools I chat in the playground to a couple of hte mums but not social with any of them.

suzywong · 08/04/2006 10:18

same as spacecadet but without the moving bit

ghosty · 08/04/2006 10:40

ditto spacecadet too ... without the moving ... but when they mixed up the classes for YR 2 we found that the 'old guard' was still sticking together ... in fact we are going out for some serious wine drinking on Tuesday.
At the end of the year all the mums in DS' YR1 class took his teacher out for meal (rather than buy her presents) ... she had a free meal and we all added $2 to our bills ... cheapest teacher present ever ...
Only some of us got a bit pissed which was very funny at the time ...

nikkie · 08/04/2006 21:03

I stand with a group in the playground(dd1s) but am not there everyday so miss a lot of chat, they have nights out but I was only asked once I am also the only single mum so a lot of them do couply things. I ahev got friendly with some of the parents at nursery (dd2s) but we haven't had a night out yet!

Pinotmum · 08/04/2006 21:06

Yes we chat and have done the odd softplay with kids get together but not nights out. Most of us seem to work p/t so hit and miss when we all see each other. They're a nice bunch though

Jasean · 09/04/2006 01:20

They are all extremely snobbish in my daughter's school. Only one parent speaks to me now. It used to be two, but one moved to another school (she couldn't stand the snobs!) They spy as well. If anyone complains in any way about anything to do with the school, it always gets back to the headteacher somehow. You can actually see some of them watching and listening when you chat. They watch and listen to those of us who are not 'middle-class', or rich, or the 'right kind'. When someone new starts and I attempt to talk to them, the 'spies' are quick to fill the newie in on who are the ones to avoid. Obviously no nights out there, just with the one who I'm friends with.

ArsumLardis · 09/04/2006 08:49

I am on friendly-enough terms to chat with most of them, but am not "friends" with any. I get the feeling there's quite a strong core who are very sociable with each other, meals out, etc., but since I'm not one of them, I can't be sure.

There's only one lady that I know the others say mean things about.. She's very nice, she has the two sweetest DDs in my son's class, but this mother dresses like an absolute tart. She stands out hugely compared to others. ("What's she trying to prove?" etc).

Enid · 09/04/2006 08:52

yes I like pretty much all of them

some of you sound paranoid

Spacecadet · 09/04/2006 08:55

ive just realised how much im going to miss the parents at ds's school...they are throwing a leaving bash for me.

saadia · 09/04/2006 08:58

I'm friendly with most of the mums at ds's nursery, but there is a group that is friendly with each other and do seem very close but only talk to others if anyone from their clique is not available.

But I try to rotate and not stick to one group. There is one group of three others that I often have coffee mornings with, but I have to say I'm very pleased that most of them are lovely and I don't think would bitch about others.

The mums at ds's playgroup were very unfriendly.

fsmail · 09/04/2006 14:14

I just chat now generally because there a lot who do bitch about others and one little boy in particular is now not being asked round to others houses because his Mum has a reputation for being a bit brash. I ask him around all the time now because I think this kind of tittle tattle could effect this child for a long time. He is a really sweet little boy although a bit lively. I have therefore stopped having anything to do with many of them now and am just polite. I just think they should get a life and stop talking about other peoples' children. I am probably so hated now but I am old enough not to care. Not the same for a six year old boy though. I only really get together with the mothers who don't gossip.

SueW · 09/04/2006 14:44

Mostly friendly at our place. I remember a group of us at one of the first social evenings saying that we could still all be here in thirteen years as our children were in reception and the school goes all the way to 18.

Most people are committed to the school for a longer term than they are likely to be in their job so it makes sense to try and get along! Also you never know who your child might want to be friends with next or who they might set their sights on as a teenager/young adult or even end up marrying!

motherinferior · 09/04/2006 16:30

Oh yes, they're lovely. We don't hang out all that much, but it's absolutely great to have a core of like-minded people I bump into every morning.

tigermoth · 09/04/2006 17:14

I like the mothers in my son's class, but it took years to get to know them. I don't hang around the school gates much as I am usually a bit late and too busy. I've never formed a close friendship with school gate mums, but then again, I've never tried to either.

ToujoursMarine · 09/04/2006 19:32

Very lucky in our class, mostly really nice people (with a couple of often-at-the-gates dads too). I think there are some close friendships but they aren't excluding ones IYSWIM. Even the sole nanny is a chatty soul.
We all go out for meals a couple of times a year, organise playdates, and generally have a convivial time at school functions, but no - we're not in each other's pockets all the time.

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