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Tricky situation regarding one of dd's teachers

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Blossomhill · 01/03/2006 20:48

My dd (6.5) attends a mainstream school with an attached language unit. She has a language/communication disorder.
Anyway they split groups for literacy and maths and dd has the same teacher for both of these sessions.
About 2 months ago dd's behaviour deterioated so badly that she was biting herself and was very unhappy. She kept saying she was unhappy about sitting on her own at the table. In the meanwhile a letter came home asking me to come in and discuss a new arrangement they had been implementing.
Basically they had been sitting dd at a table facing the wall for some written work as she was getting distracted easily. Although I know it's hard for teachers I was put out as she is in the unit to be intergrated and I would hardly call it inclusion. They may as well just hang a plaque round her head saying "special needs". I said I wasn't happy and where was dd's lsa for this lesson. Teacher said she didn't have one for literacy and it was just teacher and 3o kids (including dd) and admitted that she was finding it a bit of a struggle and that dd would benefit from extra support.
Next day went to language unit and spoke to language base teacher. Explained what literacy teacher had said and asked why dd wasn't having support. As obviously the table arrangement was being put into place as she couldn't cope with dd. Language teacher said that she would talk to literacy teacher (who was always very nice and friendly to me).
Anyway language base teacher came back and said that literacy teacher had said dd was doing fine and so was she coping with it. Dd didn't need extra support wtf????
I said well I think dd should have it. The reason I sent dd to unit was so that I knew she would always be supported and I wouldn't have to worry about this kind of situation. There argument is that dd is bright and the only child out of the 12 language base kids that need that group. Dd's sn has never been about her academ
Since then dd no longer sits at the table and they have now support for 3 days a week.
My big problem now is that literacy teacher obviously isn't happy with me. She blanks me and is just very frosty.
I can't see what her problem is? She can go home at the end of the day.
What is so wrong with wanting what is best for my little girl?

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Tortington · 01/03/2006 21:35

nothing at all and she can blow it up her arse - if you feel that her attitude may affect your childs education in anyway then request a meeting with her and th head immediatley. and tell her that you wernt undermining her ability but rather implimentin the support network your child has always needed - therefore allowing the teacher to be able to teach all the class to the best of her ability.

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Blossomhill · 01/03/2006 21:48

custardo - exactly. I mean I find dd hard work so how on earth is she going to teach a class of 30 and dd??? I actually felt sorry for her before seeing the language base teacher as didn't want her under pressure.
The thing is the money is there for support and my dd is entitled to it so why has she got such a sh**ty attitude?
I actually said to dh I don't care what she thinks. It wasn't her that had to see huge purply blue bruises all up her 6 yr olds arms because of a "stratergy" that she had implemented.

I am getting so angry the more I think of this.

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coppertop · 01/03/2006 21:53

Making your dd sit facing the wall in class certainly isn't what I would call inclusion. More like an exercise in saving money.

You spoke to her first before taking it further. She had her chance to make further enquiries about what would be best for dd. I don't see how she can blame you at all!

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getbakainyourjimjams · 01/03/2006 22:12

Sitting a child facing the wall is quite common in ms though- ds1 desk in ms faced the wall and I know friends kids have- mainly because they couldn't afford proper bays. I don't think there's anything wring with trying it. However it didn't work for your dd - and she showed that by SIB, so it was right for you to get it stopped. If the teacher has a problem with that, then its her problem and I wouldn't worry about it. Just be bright and breezy and leave her to get on with it. If you need anything sorted in future do it via the unit!

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AntheaTurnerPuff · 01/03/2006 22:14

I think you should tell her you want to meet with her and then talk this through - be honest about the fact that you feel the good working relationship you built with her has deteriorated following these recent events.

Has the being sat facing the wall stopped? (sorry I wasn't clear). If so, thank God for that!!!

I think you should reiterate how stressful this all was for you and how important it is to feel that you and the school are working together on behalf of your dd.

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