Paranoid Mum -Moi??? never......[blush]

[TambaTheDragonSlayer]

Ok so I am a paranoid mum but this school nursery stuff is very new to me

DS has come home today with a permission slip asking if he can go on a walk to the postbox to post a letter with the nursery. Which sounds lovely and he will enjoy it...but

I'll be letting him out with adults that I dont know (I think there will be a couple of parent helpers) and I have only 'known' the teacher 2 days and even then I only know her as Ms xxxxx and what if he runs into the road? Or gets lost? Or someone snatches him?

I know I am being paranoid and ober sensitive but I am tempted not to sign the form. Please reassure me that he will be totally fine.

Hes 3.5 Btw.

[mazzystar]

very very paranoid

[purpleturtle]

Let him go! He'll love it!

dd still remembers conducting a traffic survey (aged 3!) outside her pre-school.

You can't live by 'what ifs'

[purpleturtle]

And you don't want those mums talking about you at the schoolgates, do you?

[Twiglett]

so volunteer to go too .. they will need parent volunteers

now comes the hardest part of parenthood Tamba .. learning to let go a little

[Mistymoo]

Is your ds generally well behaved? Does he walk well with you?

If the answers are yes I don't see a problem. I'm sure he will be fine.

[TambaTheDragonSlayer]

I know

But hes my eldest and I have loads of excuses why it could be dangerous

Its only down the road and they will be going in small groups and I could take his reins so he could wear them.

But the 'what ifs' keep ketting at me

I am very and about the way I am feeling as ive never considered myself to be an over protective or paranoid mum.

[collision]

I think you are just worried because you know what a terror he can be!!

He will love it.

[collision]

Do NOT NOT NOT send his reins in.

He will be MORTIFIED!!

[TambaTheDragonSlayer]

I could go if i took ds2 in his buggy with me...

But i think if i do go then I will want to be there on his next outing and his next..

Like twiglet says I have to learn to let go alittle but im struggling and so by my reaction.

[TambaTheDragonSlayer]

Why not his reins? admittedly the teacher did look at me strangly when i mentioned on monday when he started that if he went off school grounds id bring his reins. Hes fine when he walks with me and doesnt wear them but its having to trust strangers with my baby thats the problem

[mazzystar]

you, know what tamba, i bet they do it every year. so i bet they have seen every escape attempt possible and know how to foil it.

the letter might be to you. aw

[charliecat]

I feel just the same as you, which is why I used to go along with the nursery when they went on outside trips, would help with another group, not the one my dd was in but wouldnt be sitting at home nerves wrecked, now work there

[collision]

Can you imagine Tamba?

There is your ds with all his mates, dressed up in his hat and coat all ready to go to the post box on his first trip.

His Mum turns up and puts his reins on. how embarrassing for him.

He will be fine and SOOOOOOOO much better behaved for his teacher than for you.

[saadia]

I would probably be like you too Tamba but my logical self tells me that children behave much better at nursery and with teachers than they do with their mummies. Most likely he will do what all the other children do and walk obediently. I'm always amazed by how well-behaved the kids are at ds's nursery, I can't believe they're all like that at home - I know my ds isn't.

I'm sure the nursery wouldn't organsise something like this if they weren't sure of safety.

[Twiglett]

bloody hell Tamba .. no reins .. he's 3 and a half he isn't a baby and you will find that he does what the other kids do

I would try to swallow down any overly-paranoid tendencies you have as it will not help either you or your child

[Twiglett]

why would you consider yourself over-protective or paranoid if you've never had to let go

believe me, we all go through these feelings, you aren't alone but in a few months you'll be laughing at your former self's pecadillos

let him go

[Enid]

sorry tamba but you are being paranoid

dd2 (she wasnt quite 3) went into town to the shoe shop with her whole class the first term she was at nursery

they all had to hold on to a rope

can't quite believe they all did it, but apparently they were angels. After they went to the shoe shop (and had their feet measured) they each got 5p to spend in the sweet shop

she still talks about how brilliant it was 4 months on

wish I had seen it

[tamum]

I know it's hard letting go, but god no, no reins. He has to learn to walk along safely, even with strangers, and he'll be at school before you know it.

[Blandmum]

Let him go. I realise that things are different now re cars etc, but there we child abusers when I was a child. And when I was 4 I used to walk to school on my own! And go to the corner shop to get milk and bread for my mum.

I think that we coddle them too much nowerdays, so you end up with 16 year old with no common' streetwise' sense.

[rummum]

I think I agree with twigglets post
BLOODY HELL... no reins... [laugh]

Unless the post box is on the motorway! then see if you can get a police escort for them...

[purpleturtle]

Have you signed that form yet?

[Enid]

we didn't get a form to sign either

[Enid]

I think you'll find the nursery will say no reins anyway tamba

[purpleturtle]

You surely don't want him to be the only one who doesn't go do you?

[Enid]

ah bless

she will send him and sit at home and worry on here until she sees him again