4 year old being bullied in nursery..............help...............

[ssd]

My ds is 4 and quite small for his age. He's got a best friend in nursery that he usually plays with. However this past year another boy has been playing with ds's friend and telling ds to go away and play by himself. Which he does. the boy telling him this is a good bit bigger than ds and ds does whatever he tells him. Ds has been in tears many times as he says the bigger boy tells him he can't play with his friend. I've tried inviting other kids round for ds to make new friends, but he still wants to play with his good friend, they've been pals since tiny. I've spoken to the nursery and rather than telling the bully to let ds play, they are telling me ds has to make new friends. Also I've spoken to the bully's mum and she says he's not like that. But ds was crying going into nursey and he's normally a really happy boy.

Please any advice would be appreciated. Thanks.

[cod]

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[ssd]

he's not being allowed to play with his friend, though. If it was his friend who was telling him to go away then he'd need to accept he'll have to make other pals. But his friend wants to play with him too and isn't being allowed. They are both being manipulated by this little bully, but ds is coming off the worst as he's not being allowed to play and says he has to play by himself at nursery.

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[ssd]

cod, the last day of nursery before Xmas, the head teacher pulled me aside and said she'd heard this boy saying to ds not to play and to go and play himself. She told me the best solution would be for ds to make new pals. I was so shocked I didn't think to say but surely YOU should be saying to other boy, don't say that to .... and let him play. Also ds's friend has told his mum this boy doesn't let him and ds play together.that's whast's pissing me off.

[cazzybabs]

To be honset that is what I would advise to - for you little boy to make different friends.

[BudaBabe]

Am shocked that even though the nursery teacher heard the other boy being horrible she didn't do anything!

I would def talk to her again. That is just not acceptable.

Ask her what their oficial policy on bullying is!!

Nursery teachers should be able to diffuse situations like this.

My DS is also 4 and had although he is in Reception he had some issues with his best friend earlier in the year. Best friend won't let him play with anyone else which I don't like. And so-called friend was being a bit of a bully. I spoke to the teacher and she kept an eye on it and dealt with it. She sits EVERYONE down and talks about being kind etc - it seems to help a bit. And then she watches out for anything still going on.

[ScummyMummy]

Why don't you invite the kid he likes over to play at your house away from the other kid? Can't do any harm for him to make a variety of friends either.

[Creole]

Or why not invite the bully round and see if they can sort out there problems. Sometimes it's best to let kids sort their own problems.

Just a thought.