Bruern Abbey(46 Posts)
Does anyone have a child or has had a child here? How is it viewed by the top academic senior schools, would they automatically refuse a child a place because they went there even if they were very able and had other strengths?
I'd also be keen to kno how very bright children with some difficulties do and how is music viewed within the school.
Hello, did you find out any more about Bruern Abbey School? Are there any parents out there with experience of the school? Pleased? Displeased? Would be grateful for any views.
Bruern Abbey was in the news a few years ago (2007) when Ruth Kelly the Labour government minister decided to send her dyslexic son there. I would assume it therefore had a good standard as she was prepared to put her neck on the line so to speak to get her son the help he required.
It is a school for dyslexic and dyspraxic children that has specialist classes according to its CReSTeD accreditation. As to whether top academic schools would recruit from Bruern would depend on whether these boys can cope and achieve with level of support the senior school can give after they leave Bruern. This would depend on the individual boy and how much the parents was prepared to pay to get this support if their son needed more support than the usual SEN child at the senior school. It seems to send to a variety of schools including top academic schools. Why not ask Bruern for the list of destinations of their leavers from last year, so you can actually see recent number against names of schools rather than the blanket term many use of in "the last few years we have sent our leavers to...."
My DC is a current pupil. Very pleased with the school. Would be happy to discuss.
Know a child about to do CE there. Lots of offers from top schools.
Can confirm horsemadmom, being a pupil at BA is not a barrier to offers from top schools. Would comment that so far that my own experience is that top schools know what the school's purpose is, some have or have had pupils from BA so there are no surprises.
Dear ILoveChocolatePudding (so do I by the way!)
We are thinking of sending DC to Bruern. Had a rough time at prep school and got final diagnosis of dyspraxia. Am nervous at re-entering independent system again but think BA would be ok.
Any words of advice would be most welcome. What is BA like as a school/culture.
Well, when you enter the school grounds the sign greeting you refers to "Free range children".
Bruern is a lovely if slightly unusual small school. Many of boys have had a poor time at their prior school (I include my own child in this) and the one thing I have learnt since my son joined is that until you improve self esteem, it is very difficult to learn, no matter how bright you are. Bruern does this and the change can be quite marked, very quickly. Also, as the majority of boys have a learning difficulty of varying degrees, the environment somehow manages to normalise things, so not being able to spell, catch a ball or read poorly does not single a child out in the way that a mainstream school might. That said, the focus is on the boys passing Common Entrance at the end of senior school and returning to mainstream education.
The school is split into two, the juniors for 8 - 11 years and senior school 11-13 (14 in some cases). The main house contains the dorms, the library and a separate building the classrooms. There is a small pool, tennis courts, cricket nets and rugby. The boys play in the grounds and can take their bicylces to ride around. There are also woods, where they build dens, climb trees and do boy stuff. Activities on offer range from shooting, polo, judo, tennis, reading club, the list goes on.
With both occupational therapist and speech and language therapist on staff, these provisions brings Bruern into its own.
Social skills and food are very important and a key event at school is the twice weekly candle lit dinners (I kid you not). Parents are invited to the dinners and it is very well attended. John the chef and his team work very hard to provide good quality home cooked meals and the boys even have Fish Club to try seafood.
In the junior school, classes are small and teaching very personal. By the senior school, it is more akin to a regular prep school as the boys are following the 2 year Common Entrance course. Parents are provided with regular feedback with report cards at 3-weekly intervals and two formal reports per year. No form tutor, but each child has a tutor. Staff are approachable and very caring of their charges and want each child to do well.
I would strongly recommend that you visit the school as only you know your child. I am sure that the head will give you an opportunity to talk to some of the boys and possibly be shown around by them. Let me know how you get on.
ilovechocolatepudding - that's it, i'm making an appointment to look round. i have 2 dyspraxic sons at a very traditional sporty pre school and need to look at alternative. very interested to read your comments. does you son board? bit worried about the boarding idea.
My DC is a weekly boarder and I would guess 85 - 90% of boys are. He has so enjoyed boarding that he has requested a senior boarding school.
Boarding. Tbh, the biggest challenges are to you as parents being comfortable with the idea of boarding. Neither my DH or myself boardered except at university and when you tell people your DC boards you do get varying responses. I have even been accused of not liking my child. What I can say is that Bruern has been an absolute tonic for my DC. I can't promise that it will work for your boys, but the choices for children requiring extra support are more limited.
I would comment that Bruern does not have all the bells and whistles of larger and better known preps particularly in the Oxfordshire area, but as a school of about 90 pupils on the roll, it offers a sea of calm and support not readily available elsewhere. More important, being dyslexic or dyspraxic is not seen as an impediment to learning. Support is given as needed, but expectations are still for each boy to do as well as they possibly can. Reports cards are the achivement and effort scoring, so its about the child's cognitive ability not their peers. Like all schools, there are ups and downs but overall we are very happy with our choice.
Do have a look and if you like it apply as soon as you can. For a school which is off the radar, Bruern does receive a lot of applications.
Hello - picking the thread up a bit late but I am v interested in all the above comments. My DS spent a night there last year and was offered a place and we were v close to sending him. The only thing that pulled us back was his observation that some of the boys were quite rowdy and he was even told "don't come here, I hate it!" The comment was probably a boy showing off and being silly so we discounted it but the rowdiness got us thinking. Our DS is quite small for his age and not that tough so we wondered whether he was observing behaviour problems (though the school claims not to have these) or whether because he's at a mixed school he's just not used to the rough and tumble of an all-boy environment? How do they safeguard against bullying?
Also do you know of any boys who have started halfway through the academic year? How did they fit in?
Finding the decision what to do with DS's schooling very stressful so any thoughts much appreciated.
As in all schools there is a mix of boys, some very confident, others very quite. The point of Bruern is that having difficulties is not a reason for not succeeding. All I could suggest is the question, are your DS needs being met in their current setting and what are your expectations going forward?
Meeting the educational needs of children with additional needs is never going to be easy and the choices out there are some what limited? The sign as you enter Bruern does say "free range children" but the context to this is that they don't leave the grounds and really it is about playing in the way many of us did as children.
Finally, I would comment that as you appear to have gone through the whole entry process and then decided against it that in your heart you may not feel that it is the right option for your DS. Sometimes, gut feel is all that we have to guide us. My own experience is that the younger they are when they join the better so that they "find" themselves before the last two years of Common Entrance preparation. Each child does find their niche and own friends. Being quite is just a "good" as being rowdy.
Dear ILoveChocolatePudding (don't we all?!)
Thanks very much for your reply.
What you say is all very helpful. I think it may be the boarding thing holding me back. DS is 10 years old and a young 10 year old at that. He's not keen on the idea (and v reluctant to leave his current network of friends) but in every other respect the school would undoubtedly give him the boost he so needs. We need to revisit it i think.
Ah, decisions, decisions!
Got my appointment to view next week. A friend of mine with a dyslexic son has just sent him there and is very happy. Am expecting to love it. But my eldest son is a quiet home-loving boy so the boarding would be a worry.....
went to see bruern abbey and absolutely loved it. it really feels like an oasis of calm and happiness compared to the rugby focused super competitive environment my sons are in at the moment. it feels homely and nurturing but the boys were all charging about on bikes and just being boys. anyone else got any experience?
Husband going in a few weeks, since he was unable to go at the same time as me. my boys would have to board a couple of nights, which will be hard (for me).
We have just been to see an ed psych who has recommended this school to us. My son is only 5 (and emotionally immature) and the thought of him boarding from the age of 7 is unthinkable to me. How do you cope with this? I havent been to see the school yet. Is there anyway he could be a day boy or would he feel left out???
GaribaldiGirl, glad to hear that you liked the school. Do say what your husband thinks.
Alfieandzoesmum, to the best of my knowledge Bruern does not take boys as young as your DC. Think they start at 8. There is a variety of formats available, day, flexi and weekly boarding although in fee terms there is not as much difference as you might expect. The school has a new head and day boys are now allocated a "bed" so are fully included in school life.
Boys do cope. Of course you get children that are home sick, that is only natural. Most settledown in time. My own observations are that the boys experience in their current setting seems to be a good indicator of how they take to boarding. By that I mean, if they are very happy in their current school, a change to any new school whether boarding or not, is going to be a hard sell. However, if the child is having a poor experience which their additional need seems to make more difficult, it is not such a hard sell on changing school and/or how they attend. If that makes sense.
The point is that the range of choices for children with additional needs are limited and sometimes whilst the idea of boarding seems far fetched especially if as parents you did not do it, don't dismiss. Keep an open mind. Sorry if that sounds preaching, not my intent.
ILoveChocolatePudding - if you don't mind me asking - was your son dyslexic or dyspraxic? and at what age did he move?
i loved it. the disadvantage for us is that our sons will lose touch with their local schoolfriends and the boarding (think that's more my problem than theirs). also my eldest son is not good with change, am sure he'll find the move stressful.
but if my husband likes it next week i'm swaying in the BA direction....
Great to hear from you. DS is neither dyslexic or dyspraxic (has other learning difficulties) but it is recommended that he is taught in a multi-sensory environment. My son also does not take to change, however he has adapted well to BA.
On the local friend front, he will lose touch although his eventual move to senior school would in all probability do that anyway. Also, normal family life is squeezed into weekends, I am not sure that they will notice. However, if there are local clubs that they attend at weekends, they will still have the opportunity to see old friends. I suppose the question I would ask, is how important are childhood friendships compare to the positives to be gained at BA. That might seem harsh, but by your late teens, how many friends from primary/prep days did you retain. I would guess not many.
My son started BA aged 10 although I wished he had started at 9 as BA comes into its own during the period of junior school. Then classes can be as small as 5 and the boys are really drilled in English and maths and this is something which is not readily available at other schools (I guess it is also the reason the fees are quite high).
BA is without doubt a very quirky school and not everyone will take to it. That said, the boys have a freedom to roam and behave in a "boy" like way which is not possible in their home environments. The biggest plus point is that for however long they are there, they are with other with difficulties and this normalises things. Boys openly ask each other what they have as though it is a badge of honour which is quite refreshing. The uniform is annoying, you try finding brown school shoes, but if you can put aside the oddities of the school and focus on the benefits for your DC then it is worth considering. Not everything is perfect and I have had my issues with it, but if I look at the educational choices that my own DC now has, they are very different from what they were. DC has a confidence about him which was never there before BA and friends and family do comment on the positive effects.
For my husband and I, boarding was an alien concept however now that I have seen the positive (and negatives), I do wish we had done it earlier. It is hard as a mother to see your children away but I have not regretted the decision.
I realise that ECLEO did ask the question about bullying. If the issue arises, as a parent you can contact the head who will investigate. The boys can go to their tutor, head, housemaster and matron to raise any issues they have. Being a small school, staff are more accessible than might be the case in a larger establishment. They do take the issues and concerns of parents seriously.
All your comments have been most helpful. Thank you!
I am now wondering whether we made the right decision and we should have started DS this sept rather than waiting a year until he's 11 and into the senior school. Argh. Guilt - it's a daily feeling in my house!
But on to more nitty gritty teaching side of things - is your son on a laptop? does this work well? how multisensory are the classes? how big are the classes in the senior school? what do you think of the teaching generally? I imagine they "get" the whole multisensory side of things and how best to support boys with verbal short term memory and working memory problems etc.
I think how I'm starting to look at things is that whatever gives DS the best chance to fulfil his potential and not feel frustrated about himself is the way forward. he might have lovely friends at his current school but if he feels bad that he can't keep up (and so much of his day is taken up with school work) then we need to change that. and as you say, how many of these friends will he keep up with anyway once at senior school?
one other thing, do they get homework at the weekend or do they get to leave all "work" at school? would be a major plus point if they did..
so many questions....
thanks for any insights. much appreciated!
p.s. ILoveChocolatePudding - what stage is your son at now? has he got long to go before the dreaded CE? how do they help the boys deal with the pressure of that?
I will try and answers your questions. Firstly, don't do guilty. There is no right or wrong answer but what feels right for your DC.
STARTING AGE - Junior vs Senior School
When my DC joined, the term often used was being Bruerned and it takes about a year.
My observations are that the junior school time just gives them the opportunity to catch up, "discover" themselves, realise that having learning difficulty is not unusual and demonstrate their abiities/talents. Once they start the hamster wheel of CE, BA like all prep schools needs to cover the CE curriculm so there is less time, if that makes sense.
Also there is the issue of senior school choices. There is every likelihood that you won't discover your DC abilities until end of their first year and you may start viewing senior schools in the first year of senior's so there is less time. Some senior schools want registration 2 or even 3 years out, I would just caution that their performance in their current school may not be indicative of their true ability. It is my opinion that the educational choices for children with additional needs is not simple and a lot of time and effort needs to be spent to find a suitable choice or choices. Finding BA is a challenge in itself and then what to do after that is a whole saga.
It was the case when my son started that you had to provide them with a laptop. Every boy has weekly typing lessons throughout the school and some papers of the CE exam are produced by the boys on laptops - RS, history and English I think. This is also the case for intenal exams.
As I touch type, I had my son learn before he started at BA. It is not necessary, but if DS is not starting until next year, I would say it is worth considering. I used a programme called English Type, which I found the most comprehensive. Son now types in excess of 40 words per minute, which is respectable.
SENIOR SCHOOL CLASS SIZE
I think about 8, 9 or 10 but cannot be 100% on that.
My DS does seem more engaged than at previous school though that is not true of every subject. Latin has been introduced and this seems to have gone down well with the boys. It is difficult to comment on the quality of the teaching. I do believe that a child left last year after scoring an average of about 90-95% in each of the 7 CE subjects, so guess they must be doing something right.
I cannot answer this but would comment that many of teachers hold dyslexia diplomas/qualifications and attend courses at Helen Arkell Dyslexia Centre.
They get 40 minutes of homework at the weekends. Single subject, typically maths or English. Prep is timetabled during the school day when they are expected to complete any homework then. As the school day is long, it finishes at 6.15pm for both boarders and day boys, it is not carried over into their own time. So you can have family time over the weekends.
FRIENDSHIPS and FRUSTRATION
I am not trying to minimise the importance of friendships, but as DS gets older and is "left behind" this can open up a whole can of worms and child feels increasingly isolated. My experience is that low self esteem hinders learning no matter how bright they are.
My DS will do CE June 2013 so not long. Knowing my son, he is oblivious to the pressure, just how he is. It will be interesting to see how or if he changes over the next year.
My take on pressure is that it relates to the choice of senior school. If DC is down for very academic, eg Winchester then they may well be aware of what is expected of them. Other schools may not require such high scores. I guess a conditional offer by a senior school will be made following reference from head, so would say that an offer would be made only if all feel child can achieve requirement. Could be wrong, but would not make sense to offer if no possibility of child reachng required score.
Hope that helps, but let me know if you want to know anything else.
Thank you so much for taking the time to answer. It's all really helpful. Back to Bruern in December so we shall see...
sorry, one other question!....my DS is at a fairly down-to-earth private school with quite unspoilt and level-headed children (despite being in london!) and so I was wondering what the mix of boys was like at bruern? thanks
My husband loved it too - he visited last week. Going to move 9 year old next term, when he'll have just turned 10 and probably his brother in September. Hooray, can't wait!
Dear GaribaldiGirl and ECLEO,
First GG, glad your husband like it and good news about your son joining. Start looking for those brown shoes.
How do I answer your question? Schools attract all sorts of children from a variety of backgrounds. I would guess some lucky so and so get their fees paid by an LEA, others parents, grandparents, who knows. Boys go to BA because they have difficulties. OK, they have just got on the Tatler 2013 list of top prep schools but once the boys have on their uniforms and playing "bull dog" in the grounds they are all pretty down to earth.
ECLEO - For what it's worth - my impression was that the boys were on the whole quite 'posh', bet there are lots of double-barrelled surnames etc. But that is not to say they are spoiled or snobby. Also I'm suspecting a lot of them will have had humbling experiences at competitive mainstream prep schools. My husband and I are not from privileged backgrounds.
Bruern came to my son's ultra competitve sporty school this week for a match and beat our B team. Hooray!
It was your son's school. My DS was so pleased (he didn't play) that they had won a match. Think the BA team were heros, well for a few days at least.
ECLEO, GaribaldiGirl is right some of the boys are posh, very different family backgrounds to my own and at least no one arrives by helicopter anymore, but don't let that put you off.
Hi all, hope its ok to jump in I am also a BA parent of long standing. I agree
Whole heartedly with much of what I love chocolate pudding has already said.
Bruern is a wonderful school that allows boys to be boys. They build dams in the stream, play bulldog on the lawn
get as muddy as they possibly can and then run back to class sometimes with two shoes not always their own, but usually two. It's not the right school for everyone if you like a lot of structure and get upset about messy clothes and missing shoes, jumpers, etc then it may well drive you a little crazy. There is so much to love about the school and I feel truly lucky to have stumbled upon such a magical place. Of course nowhere is perfect but for our family it comes pretty close. My eldest Ds sits common entrance this year and hopefully will slot back into main stream education a more confident and capable young man equipped with the tools he needs for the next step into senior school.
So glad to hear you will be joining us GG
The parents like the boys tend to have been through the mill so to speak and I
think that common bond helps to create a very warm and friendly atmosphere.
That's so nice to hear. I love the fact the boys get to play outside so much. At their current school it's all rugby, football - all very structured.
Can I ask - does your son board? And at what age did he start?
I have no reservations about moving him other than the boarding. He's only staying for one night to start with but it's a pretty longish drive for me and he has 4 siblings, so I'm hoping to persuade him to stay more. But he's quite a homebody and prone to anxiety. His younger brother will be joining him after 2 terms and they're really close, so I think that will make it easier. But the thought of all that driving fills me with dread!
that makes me smile. my son's football team has probably won 1 match in the 2 years he's been at his current school so that certainly doesn't put us off!
i went to try and flick through a tatler at the newsagent but too late for october edition. what did it say??
p.s. a retired dyslexia specialist (well-known in the field) recently described the principal to me as a "dilettante" and was rather scathing about his knowledge and understanding of dyslexia. admittedly this was based on her experiences of him 4+ years ago but we were a bit puzzled by what he does and what his involvement is in the school. also whether he might suddenly sell out to a dreaded private equity business...?
But he is dyslexic himself, which I found interesting. He'll certainly understand how it feels to be different. Isn't it more important that the teaching staff are trained to deal with dyslexia/dyspraxia? Am going with my boys in a few weeks for an assessment, will check it out. I seem to remember him saying a certain percentage were 'specialist', but can't remember the number - was too busy loving the fact the boys were charging round the gardens having fun....
The headmaster at my sons' current school spoke highly of Bruern and he is extremely experienced and close to retirement. They have sent several boys over the years and he only had good things to say.
Gosh it's stressful when you're child is not 'conventional'. I have 2 girls at secondary school level who are so straightforward - and I never had to think about their schools - it was all so easy.
totally agree. the boys need good specialist multisensory teaching and a sympathetic approach.
i think the view of the specialist i spoke to was that the school professed this but didn't quite deliver. however, this is hard to believe nowadays -how did it get Crested registered and a good Ofsted? and if the boys get into good schools at 13 then it must be doing something right.
maybe the school didn't quite have the formula then but has improved since.
yes it's so difficult. you just want to find somewhere that allows your child to unlock their potential and where they're happy, make friends and feel secure. But why oh why is this so hard to find for a dyslexic child? so many schools claim they have the right specialist help but when you look into it it's token. For a parent it's hard trying to get unbiased, straight answers - a lot of schools will just tell you what you want to hear. Argh!
Dear ECLEO and GaribaldiGirl,
To the best of my knowledge, the principal does not teach the children and the day to day management of the school is in the hand of the head.
As you might appreciate, I cannot comment on the retired dyslexia specialist position but if the principal is "dilettante", all I can say is that the school has existed for 20 years with pupils travelling from as far as mainland Europe and the Americas to attend, so he must have done something right. I met him only after my DS started but it has not made a difference in terms of choosing the school.
I would be curious on what basis it is judged not to deliver. I believe the schools view their success on the number of boys that go to mainstream public schools espcially when you consider their performance when they come in. I would guess that Ruth Kelly would not given up her ministerial position and all the bad press in order for her son to attend the school if it did not add some value.
As GaribaldiGirl highlights, the choices are different if your child is not conventional. BA is not everyone's cup of tea for its quirky approach and non-pc attitudes to child rearing. Like all schools, of course you have your ups and downs. All I can say is that as parents if you can embrace the oddness (try getting brown shoes that takes dedication in itself), it can work for your boys. As my husband says, the school suits non-convential children or non-convential children suit it.
Hello - we went back. very positive vibes. nice young chap showed us the new DT room - bet the boys love that addition.
DS going for an overnight stay - see how he copes.
had good chat with head - but realised afterwards that whilst we got all the info about how things are done in the junior school (max 10 per class etc) didn't get much info on the lower and upper sixth.
also he explained school has expanded a little recently. have parents regarded this as a positive move? any fears of further changes?
how do the boys find transition into lower sixth? how many in a class?
are they still streamed?
do boys feel like they are getting enough support still? if our DS goes he'll only have one year in junior school so hoping this is enough to make him feel like he can cope with CE preps.
were parents generally pleased with outcome of last year's CE?
any answers gratefully received!
This may be late - but I am the mother of a DC who went to Bruern Abbey having just turned 9 years old, after his 3rd London prep school was failing him. He is now 16, in first year A Levels at Charterhouse, having done wonderfully at GCSE's. Bruern is an exceptional place restoring the confidence of both child and parent, and in turn restoring that fragile relationship between child and parent. I'd be happy to speak to any of you if there are any other questions I can help with.
So, finally, my eldest son is starting bruern in january. He is 10. He's been doing 'fine' in his prep school and has 'picked up a lot' according to his headmaster, but not as well as we think he should. I think, like lots of dyslexic/dyspraxic boys, he's written off as being less bright than he really is and doesn't get the attention he needs. He has no confidence. He gets shouted at by some teachers for not remembering things, being untidy or being disorganised - things he can't help. And, as in a lot of these ultra competitive schools, he is made to feel small by some of the staff and some of his peers (and their parents). The conventional clever or sporty boy is the only one who is celebrated. I have slowly grown to find many of the staff/boys/parents very slightly repulsive. Not proud to say that, but that shows me it's time to
I thought Bruern seemed amazing. Happy. Fun. Nurturing. It's small enough for every boy to count. He went for a day and totally loved it, much to my surprise since he hates change. Have decided that I don't really give a stuff whether my son gets 65 or whatever in his common entrance exam, so long as he comes out the other end of prep school as a happy confident boy who knows what he loves. I speak as someone who has 5 children and my his elder sisters were lucky enough to be academically conventional and easily placed in academically selective schools.
The art of parenting a non-conventional child is a much bigger challenge. And i've decided that choosing to focus on happiness and confidence rather than common entrance scores makes all the choices much easier. My dyspraxic son is the nicest and most thoughtful of my 5 children. He thinks differently. He is thoughtful, imaginative, creative and no less a person that the computer brainbox who gets 100% in his maths exam. Am ranting a bit, must stop!
Having said that i am hoping Bruern will teach him the skills to do better academically. But we'll wait and see.....
Love to hear from anyone about Bruern. Has anyone else got a dyspraxic son there?
I feel so incredibly lucky that we can afford to make this choice for my son. I sometimes wonder how he would have fared in our local primary with 30 in a class.
I'll see if I can also answer some of your questions - My son is dyslexic & slightly dyspraxic & has been at Bruern since he was 8 and it has made a massive difference to his confidence and his academic abilities -he's now in the lower 6th - we arrived there after he had had a really bad time at his previous prep school.
Whether you think boarding is a good thing or not Bruern offers so much to help your son with his confidence and general ability to learn that for many it becomes a sacrifice worth making. My son is a flexi boarder and to your point garibaldigirl I drove him as a day boy 11/2 hrs each way for the first year - it was tiring but it was absolutely worth it! we have now rented out our house and moved closer and will stay nearer the school until my DS finishes. It has been a sacrifice but It has def been worth it!
You have to bear in mind that Bruern can't work miracles but what they try to do is give your son the tools to become the best he can be and to become confident in himself - last year boys went to a variety of schools after common entrance - Teddies, Stowe, Bryanston, Shrewsbury, Milton Abbey, and one even went to charterhouse - but it's really completely linked to your son's own ability and specific difficulties and we sent our son there for all of the reasons Garibaldigirl states - we just wanted to take the pressure off and allow him to be the best he could be. Bruern definitely does that and I am really really happy that I sent my son there.
If you send your son to Bruern then what you will get is a happy sunny boy who is confident and knows his own abilities.
Last year all the boys that took CE passed -and I think all went to the school of their choice - although a few subsequently changed as there is not always the dyslexic support that might be promised - a couple who were still not ready didn't take it and stayed back a year and that is common and not seen as a bad thing at all.
As with any school there can be bullying and we have had a little experience of it- what's different at Bruern is that it will get dealt with swiftly and is not tolerated. Some of the boys do have their own difficulties and can be a bit tricky - but I think that would be the same wherever you sent them.
The New head has found his feet and is really good - All the older parents were very attached to the old head so it took a little time to get used to the change - but he had added a lot of extra value.
The principle is eccentric but he is fantastic with the boys and his whole heart is in it as he clearly had some similar issues himself growing up.
As a parent it does feel that it could be getting a bit too big now and class sizes seem to have gone up from 8-9 to 13/14 in some cases.
I don't know what plans the New Head has for expansion but this could detract in the future - last year I knew 90% of the other mums - this year thats not the case as we have had quite a big influx and I am not sure the school was quite ready - eating /parking and sleeping are getting a bit tight!
It's also a very eclectic mix of boys and parents - but we all have one thing in common - all our boys have struggled at some point - therefore it is without doubt one of the most welcoming environments as far as other parents are concerned...
Garibaldigirl there is an informal coffee morning on Mondays after the drop off at a local coffee shop which mums tend to go to....its def worth going along if you can - I work again now so don't get there v often but you should try and go along if you can...
I would recommend it to any parent who is looking to help bring out the best in their dyslexic son - its not an academic hot house so if you are hoping your son will suddenly get into Westminster it won't happen unless he was bright enough to start with - but he will def achieve his potential if he works at it and the teachers are really the unsung heroes..
If anyone wants more details they can contact me on here and I am happy to talk off line
our ds is going for an overnight stay later this month with a view (if it goes well) to starting in sept joining the final year of the junior school.
I would really like to take you up on your offer and talk offline if that's at all possible. How do we do this? Is there some sort of mumsnet etiquette to follow?!
Hi ECLEO if you mail/ call the secretary at Bruern your tel number, who your child is and that you have been speaking to me on mums net - she knows to send it on to me and I will call you
just picked up your msg. Thanks so much. Have sent details as you suggested.
Been re-reading the thread - hope your DS is settling in ok (and that you're coping ok with the whole boarding thing?!).
ECLEO - two and a half weeks in and very very happy (mother and son!). He seems to have lost all his uniform and is unspeakably filthy when I collect him, but has a huge smile on his face. He tells me he prefers it to his previous school, that it is much more fun. And he told me this week that 'nobody has shouted at me yet' which made me want to cry because it was a daily occurrence at his previous school.
He misses his old friends, but I hope in time he'll love his Bruern friends as much.
One of the things I've noticed that he talks a lot about the games they play at break. They set up these bases and attack each other, taking prisoners etc. He loves it. At his previous school the boys only ever seemed to play football or rugby at break, that was the culture and the A team would only allow fellow A teamers to play with them - complete tossers! (whoops excuse my language and I'm sure they'll all grow up into charming young men). But at Bruern they all seem to have fun together without any hierarchy. Certainly when I've wondered up to the dorms to try to find his lost uniform there is always a mad riot of half dressed filthy boys laughing and shouting.
Also loving the zero homework in the week. No more nightly battles, I can just enjoy the evenings with him.
He's boarding just one night a week at the moment. He cried the first night but now he's done it 3 times he seems happier about it. I'm hoping he'll move to two after half term but don't want to push him....the drive is 45 mins each way (nothing compared to Trefusis marathon trips) but I'm finding the early mornings a challenge since school starts at 8.15.
Trefusis - thanks for tip about coffee morning, will try to go.
So glad to hear that your son has settled in well. Hopefully the poor weather conditions have not been too bad for you with your travel arrangements. From own DC stories, the snow has been a fun time with inter-house competition of snowball fights and snowman construction.
A tip regarding your son. Don't know which night he boards but if you are able after half term to add another night, consider attending a formal dinner with him. The boys like to "show off" their parents and are given the chance to choose their tabler companions so he could then introduce any friends he has made.
There is a new school website which others interested in the school can learn more. I can vouch that the photographs are all of boys currently at the school including my own DC.
So...my son has just been diagnosed with dispraxia....the school which looks the most suitable is breurn but as our son is only 6 what on earth do we do with him until he is old enough to go there - assuming of course he gets in...? He loves his current prep school but....slowly but surely his confidence is being eroded and he spends half of his time with the reception class as he can't keep up with his year group ...give it another six months and he will I'm sure be less confident than he is now
To be fair to his current school they have been fabulous and were in fact the ones who have worked out with the support of an ed psy of what was "wrong" but do I therefore have to leave him there for another 18 months to two years...? What has anyone else done to bridge this gap? Love to hear from someone who has had the same challenge as I have now got...!
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