buy your child new shoes!!!!

[vickiyumyum]

ds2 recently started nursery in the afternoons, which had been going really well.
Brought the kids new shoes the weekend before last and ds2 got boots that do up with a zip, beczause all the other that fitted him had laces, so i though that with practice he could do them himself.

got a letter from nuresery on friday, saying, please buy willima new shoes this weekend that he can do up himself as we do not have the tiem to do your childs shoes up!
i haven't brought him any new shoes yet as i had been at work all weekend and really am not sure that i want to, the zips are just a biot stiff because they are new, once he gets used to them he will be able to do them.

what would you do? (am going to see the teacher tomorrow lunch time to discuss with her)

[ButtonMoon]

Cheeky buggers!! Can't quite believe it...tell them you shall do no such thing!

[vickiyumyum]

thnaks at least one person agres with me! dh told me to just buy new shoes and stop moaning. but his boots were expensive, £40 from russell and bromley as he has wide feet and can't just buy standard shoes from shops like next, mothercare.

[Aero]

I think that is a ridiculous suggestion and how rude to tell you to buy your child new shoes. I can't believe it'd take that much time to pull up a zip. Really, ridiculous! I have worked in a nursery - putting on shoes is part and parcel of the job - it's not that time consuming!

[SleepySuzy]

Some people could not afford to rush out and buy another pair of shoes (me). Tell them where to go!!!

I can't believe they said this!

[Roisinsmysterygiftbearer]

Bit shocked at this from a nursery!! How old is ds? My ds is almost 3 and I still do his shoes most of the time - it's quicker!!!

[vickiyumyum]

snap! money is a big issue, dh says go and buy them but wouldn't give me the cash to do so!
have also been asked to only put him in tracksuit bottoms as he soemtimes finds it difficult to pull up jeans etc after going to the loo.

[LilacLotus]

unbelievable!

[Roobie]

I think you were really considerate in the first place getting him boots that he could potentially do up himself .... just tell the nursery that this was your intention and with a bit of practice and help he will be coping with them on his own just fine.
I've just got dd a lovely pair of red Kickers but she can't wear them to nursery as she can't lace them up herself - fortunately she only goes 2 days a week so we can get plenty of wear out of them at home.

[vickiyumyum]

ds2 is 3.8

[yoyo]

Our Pre-school and Nursery insist on velcro - but we are told in advance.

[Caligula]

Um... isn't nursery a place where children are supposed to be looked after?

Helping them do their shoes up is part of looking after them, imo and if they don't have time to do it, then I would seriously wonder about the quality of care - what else don't they have time to do? Feed them? Hug them? I'd threaten them with Penelope Leach!

Aside from that, it is really cheeky - they really should not be telling you what clothing to buy, except if you were doing something mad like sending her to nursery in sandals and no socks in the middle of winter. It's just cheeky (quite apart from the fact that they have no idea if you can afford it or not).

[Pinotmum]

I'd explain that I really couldn't afford to at this moment in time and that you were confident ds would be able to manage quite soon. Then bid them good day! I little bit rude to ask you to buy him new shoes imho. I work in a pre-school and spend a few minutes here and there helping children with laces and buckles - no big headache really. The only thing we do insist on is that children wear closed toe shoes for outside play as we've seen too many toe nails broken off and the upset it causes the poor child- yeuk!

[Katemum]

In the school uniform list for my ds, reception, was a request that we buy velcro school shoes. This was clearly stated at the outset and was only a request. Nursery are being damn cheeky.

[foxinsocks]

we can only put ds in shoes he can do up himself - but we are also told in advance

[ButtonMoon]

Why does he need to do his shoes up for? Do they have to take their shoes off regularly then? I can sort of understand the trouser thing cos it can be a dodgy area taking kids to the toilet, they have to have 2 members of staff or something...but shoes...i just don't get it!?

[vickiyumyum]

am abit worried about the nursery anyway, nothing defiante, just got an uneasy feeling about it, but have to send ds1 and ds2 to the same school as schools in this area too far apart to get tehm there on time. and ds1 already been to three schools and he is only 8, due to house moves and the infant and junior school part is very nice.

[poppy101]

Hi they should have mentioned to you before that they like velcro shoes etc.

I understand from the point of the staff, I myself was a Early Years teacher and it is a pain when you get some children who cant do their own shoes up, from a teachers point of view, it takes up time and if all the children were like this, then nothing would get accomplished.

Also it is an important step for the child to become independent and is important that they take care of their own needs etc. so velcro shoes are a blessing. If you can't afford new shoes then speak to the staff, they should make a compromise.

[vickiyumyum]

they have to change into wellies to play outside, so as not to get the nursery floor muddy, sandy when they come back in from play.

we didn't have any requests for special clothes requirements before starting. so will probably say that at the monet cannot afford to replace shoes, but will provide slippers, pumps to wear inside if that is better until he can do his boots up himself.

[Katemum]

How about telling them that there is no way you can afford to buy new shoes at the moment but that you will ensure that his next pair are velcro?

[poppy101]

They will probably agree to pumps or daps (slip on trainers), they should understand.

[vickiyumyum]

it isn't so much about affording them really, it is the principle i suppose, i was never asked to provide a certain type of shoe, apart from wellies for outdoor play and a coat to be left at school (in case of drastic change in weather)and i did specifically buy the easy option. may try rubbing something on the zip to make it easier to pull up!

[Pinotmum]

I think lead rubbed on the zip is supposed to help.

[roisin]

A bar of soap rubbed on the zip should help.

[vickiyumyum]

thanks for that ladies will give it a try.

thanks for agreeing with me too, could feel a big row brewing with dh and now i have vented my spleen, so can go away quite calmly!!!