DH is currently at the financial settlement stage of divorce. They are processing their paperwork in order to try and agree on a settlement. DH pays his ex child maintenance currently at a figure they agreed on separation. There is some money involved, equity in the house and two children. She has never worked, or at least very little. Even before the children i'm told work wasn't on her list of priorities. The children are now at sixth form and secondary school, no reason whatsoever she couldn't hold down a full time job (or at least nearly full time). I've always worked and now have a fairly responsible and well paid job. She will not be hard up by any stretch of the imagination after divorce but her latest communication states that as we're in a long term relationship then my salary needs to be factored into the figures (i.e. she gets more money from him). We don't live together full time, I have my own apartment to pay for, bills, council tax, etc. I live with him every weekend and we split food costs. We have his kids EOW and I split costs with him for that. He pays his bills, I pay mine. Am I being unreasonable to want to tell her to foxtrot oscar, is this fair? I'm expecting to be slated by some for this but would appreciate your points of view.
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