Separation

[heiditheslayer]

Hi guys this is my first post on here, looking for a little advice. My partner left me and my son of now 11 this time last year after 14 years of us being together.
We had a family home that we sold back in June and in the interim of finding somewhere to go my son and I have been staying with my parents.
Now my ex is very much about and sees our son at least twice a week.
My son has been ok with all that's happening as we talk regularly about things and I'm constantly reminding him that myself and his dad love him very much. although I'm very hurt by what has happened I'm doing my best to be civil to my ex for the sake of our son,
but I've noticed my son has become very needy of me and he is playing up a bit with certain things especially when it's something he doesn't want to do, all of a sudden he feels sorry for himself and gets a bit tearful.
My mum keeps suggesting a school councillor but I'm just not sure! I'm hoping when we move into our new place (2 weeks time ) we can get some sense of routine back. Any advice would be gratefully received as I'm feeling like I'm failing as a mum as I don't no what to do for the best.
Thank you.

[somanymiles]

You are not failing as a Mum! Even when a separation has been relatively civil and easy your DS is going to have a reaction to it. I went through the same thing with my DS when his Dad and I split - a long time ago now, but for a year afterwards my DS was moody, playing up in school etc. A school counsellor did help, and I don't think it can hurt so why not find out if there is one at his school? You're right - things will calm down in time, and it's true that moving out of the family home might have triggered this in your DS. But getting some support in the mean time can only make things easier for both of you.