Help. Dead marriage.

[geordiegeorgie]

The headline is gimmicky, but I'm crying as I type. In summary:

• together 10 years
  
• married 5
  
• never been interested in sex
  
• I knew this and still married him (my fault)
  
• lovely man. Never hit me. Intelligent. Funny.
  
• 2 kids: 4 and 2.
  
• 100% grateful the kids have a WONDERFUL father. Perfect.
  
• shit marriage.no bond. No desire.
  
• wonder if he's gay / asexual.
  
• my heart HURTS. Being undesired for 10 years

[Patry]

Is sex the only thing that isn't working?
I know it is important but I'm asking because I'' hardly ever interested in sex with my DH but that's because I don't think I'm interested in him anymore and our marriage isn't working.