looong story which I won't go over again. Summary, difficult marriage for years, suspect DH has Aspergers but not diagnosed. Two DS both have had serious medical conditions. DS1 is 15 and very, very feisty. Have asked DH several times over the years to separate, but has refused. loads of counselling, he is unable to empathise or understand anyone else so didn't help. FINALLY, have got him to agree to move out, as tension in house is horrendous, awful rows between him and DS1 all the time. DS 2 has epilepsy and has actually asked to go to hospital to get away from home. DH has agreed, reluctantly, to go and stay at his mother's house during the week, here at weekends. Don't start flaming me - he works a lot at the weekends and goes to hockey, so isn't around much anyway. This is the only way I could get him to go - failing that it was me move out with the kids. We are going to talk to the DC tonight and explain. (I think DS1 will have the flags out, but DS2 adores Dad and will be upset.) However. Today I feel shite. I've gone from strong woman, putting the health of the kids and me first, to feeling wracked with guilt. I feel really sorry for DH. He will have a hideous journey to and from work from his mother's house - probably an hour each way. She is not too chuffed about him going there, but I think she understands the strain I've been under and can't carry on like this. He will miss the kids and the dog dreadfully. I feel really sorry for him, he's not a bad person, but shite to live with. Haven't thought through the weekends yet - I think I'll get him to sleep in DS2's room and DS2 can come in with me. Unless you all think that's a terrible idea (he's 10 and does get a bit scared at night in case he has a seizure.) I'm trying to focus on how much calmer the house will be, how much happier I will be, and having a bed to myself - but I still feel guilty and sorry for him. Can someone have a word and get me back on track?
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