Hi midnight I was on your other thread!
I'm currently doing Freedom Programme and am on week 6. It is quite simply the most invaluable resource I've had access to!
I've shared some pictures of the resource we were given on week 1. It outlines different abusive personas, although many abusers cover multiple. Each week you cover a different persona in detail and discuss their tactics, beliefs, etc. There are also weeks that you discuss the effects domestic abuse has on any children, which is a hard one but very helpful, and at the end they go over warning signs and red flags for future relationships.
I have a wonderful group who are very supportive and we have an open door policy so anyone can join at any time and we have a creche for any children. Try asking Women's Aid for whether that's at your local Programme if you need it!
Freedom has honestly given me a huge source of strength and knowledge, and I can definitely say, hand on heart, that it has stopped me going back to him. I would probably have gotten sucked into his manipulation and minimising if it hadn't been for Freedom validating his actions as abuse and validating my feelings of being abused.
It's also introduced me to some wonderful people who really understand what you're going through. On week 3 I ended up bursting into tears, because I was having such a rough week but when I was there people were so lovely and I stopped feeling so alone in what I was going through.
You can also do the Programme more than once. So if you feel later on down the line that you need that validation and confidence boost again with regards to your abuser, you can go back and do it again no problem. There are about 2 or 3 women in our group who are on it for the second time.
All in all I would 100% recommend it, and sticking to it even if it gets emotional and hard. We've had a few women who simply haven't come back for whatever reason, but one woman has been there every week, despite crying in every session, and despite openly admitting to feeling like crap. This last week she was there again, she didn't cry (she even said at the end "I didn't cry this time!") and she seemed so much stronger and like she'd really turned a corner. And although I barely know her, I'm so proud of her and feel honoured to witness that stage of her recovery.
It creates a sense of community with others who don't look at you with complete shock and an "I don't know what to say face", but rather nod knowingly and offer there own experiences and a shoulder to cry on and a lot of the time we laugh a lot too! There is such a sense of humour and comradeship. I've heard so many women describe it as their "safe place". Its a place where you can discuss and share without fear or judgement. There are confidentiality rules and other safeguarding rules to keep everyone as safe as possible.
Definitely go along. If you find it's not for you then simply tell the organisers so they don't worry something has happened to you, and there's no pressure to keep going. I would suggest that you give it a few weeks before making that decision though as it can be a bit hard the first few weeks because some of the stuff is hard to hear, but can also be very empowering if you let it.
I hope you try it out. I find it's especially valuable if you've been in an EA relationship as you're often doubting yourself and being manipulated into thinking you're "overreacting" or "imagining things". It's so empowering to have people saying "no, that was wrong and you are right to feel this way".
Good luck midnight