My husband of 16 years has decided that we are better off apart. He's probably right, as things have not been good for a long while - I was hoping to sort things out, but it's not to be. We have 3 children-teenagers know the situation, 7 year old doesn't. His actions have so far not matched what he has said - 'putting the children first' became only communicating through our eldest until i pointed out that was wrong; spending 1 hour with the children on his birthday & the rest of the time with his mates; accusations of my taking his money, etc - it's been stressful to say the least; we are all still in the family home, tip-toeing around each other. He says I should have the children, it's wrong to take kids from their mum, but he would 'still like to see them' - although due to work, he can't commit to set times/days. He has no idea how hurtful that sounds. My problem is after 7 weeks he's taken no further steps and has said that I should sort it. In between crying, I've had some estate agents in to value the house; looked up endless things about divorce and got an idea of costs involved if using a solicitor - I just don't know which way to turn. There's a lot of equity in the house, a shared business, and a small inheritance which was mine originally - surprise surprise it's not mine to keep now! I want to be fair, but I want to be in a safe & secure home with the children; I don't think mediation would work-he will just talk round in circles - I am wondering if any on-line packages for divorce/financial settlement are any good, or if I've got to bite the bullet & go to a solicitor? Sorry for the long post - I've no idea what to do & don't know anyone who is divorced to ask for advice.
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