Hi everyone,
Please bear with me am a complete newbie to all this!
My husband and I have been separated since April 2014.. he text me across the room one day and informed me he no longer wanted to be married to me. Anyway this was fine only things got nasty and there ended up being police involvement and my son and I were removed from the family home for our own safety until a judge ordered removal of him from the house and we were allowed back home. This consequently led to a non-molestation order being passed to protect me and a prohibited steps order being passed to protect my son and supervised contact being arranged for 6hrs a week.
It became apparent that I had been the victim of domestic abuse for several years but had just assumed that it was the "norm" so it wasn't until a very blunt police officer made it very clear that I realised 😔
I remortgaged the property in January 2015 and did a transfer of equity while giving him a cash pay out. He never financially contributed to the home as I was the main breadwinner and he moved in with me when I was already set up on the property ladder and financially independent so I (stupidly!) carried on living and paying as I always had done and he lived the life of Riley at my expense while I added him onto the mortgage coz that's what I thought married couples did! Anyway I gave him £1500 cash when I remortgaged and we signed a matrimonial separation agreement and matrimonial waiver form as no divorce proceedings had started.
Fast forward a few years and I am now with a new partner and we are planning our future together (although not marriage!) this has led to me putting my house up for sale and us in a process of buying a new home together. Out of nowhere my ex has decided he now wants a divorce after years of saying no.. I'm convinced there is some reason behind it yet he won't let on to anything.
My query is how safe is the house following transfer of equity? I'm worried he's going to ruin my future financially after (unknowingly) having to put up with years of rubbish from him and funding his lifestyle already..
I'm more than happy to go through with the divorce but obviously want to protect myself (and new partner) financially. I earn more now than I did while with him and have just gone back to uni to gain my masters degree and therefore better myself further.
We were married for 25months and have a (now) 3yr old. The court orders originally passed have never been finished due to there still being deemed a risk to both me and my son.
As far as I'm aware he doesn't know about my plans for the future. I would obviously instruct him of my new address due to our son but he doesn't know of my change of jobs or going back to uni etc.
Any advice gratefully received!
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LilGem1988 · 20/10/2016 06:48
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