My husband and I had our decree nisi back in the summer and are working through final points in order to apply for absolute. House is nearly sold, we've been living together for over a year since we agreed to separate and things are unbearable. It was supposed to have been a mutual decision but has turned into him as the victim, I am the one who has ruined everything and I am a dreadful mother. We haven't agreed money split yet but I have agreed to give him more equity as I earn more. This is just to give background.
He wants holiday arrangements all documented as he says he doesn't trust me to be reasonable. We are going to have the children 50/50 and split our weeks every week.
He wants us to alternate Christmas so one parent would have the kids (6 and 3) from 24 until 28th Dec i.e. The whole Christmas period. I have given in on a lot (or so it feels) but can't bear the thought of not seeing them at all during this time. They're still really little and I don't want to miss it all or not be there to share things. I know things have to change. I said could I have them 23-25th and I would drive them Christmas morning to wherever he is (perhaps 1.5hrs away with family) and he could have them next few days, so we all get a bit of the Christmas magic. He says this is unfair on them and I'm just making it all about me. We have had six sessions of mediation and I have said I'm not paying for any more (£700 a go). Please share what you do, I am open to compromise, I'd just like some ideas. Although doing Christmas together is not an option for me. We did that last year and it was very hard. Thank you.
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tonga · 19/10/2016 09:59
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