Advice needed about my daughter visiting her dad for weekends

[loganberry12]

My little girl is 7 my ex & I have been separated for 4 years she goes to his every Saturday & he brings her home Sunday evenings. The problem is there are no rules with him & she does pretty much as she likes usually comes home with loads of goodies toys etc. When she comes home on a Sunday it takes about 40 minutes to get her to come in she cries & screams runs off hits out at me says she doesn't like me & wants her dad is very disrespectful & rude. When I finally get her indoors she calms down after about half hour & is fine for the rest of the week until she goes back to her dad's the following weekend. I've tried to discuss this with him to think of some kind of solution to help her from being so upset but he doesn't seem to know what to do either he only has her 24 hours so doesn't really care how distressing this is for both my daughter & I , I really am at my wits end & don't know how to solve this

[loganberry12]

Also I forgot to add he lets her have a dummy at his which she always asked to let her keep on a Sunday when he brings her home of course I say no she's far to old for a dummy & she kicks off saying I'm mean & don't care about her

[Cabrinha]

I think at her age and after this long, it isn't a reaction to lack of rules at his house - but a bigger underlying upset. I would look into therapy, I think.