Hey there mumsnet. I've never posted before, but have lurked plenty. Hello!
I've just split from DH, a month ago. I say split, I've told him over and over and over that we are finished, but he just won't accept it.
He has been a total d**k for years (we've been together for 18) - fluctuating between cheating on me and mad unfounded sexual jealousy (waking me up in the early hours to ask who I've been sleeping with - erm, no one). I've never been unfaithful. Then just loads of low level EA I don't need to go into.
So, I'm just having a nightmare extricating myself from him. I'm trying to make it ok for the kids, have suggested we spend half time in the house with them initially, so they have stability, until we sort out what's happened next. But it's just a nightmare! He's crying constantly, in front of kids. I'm trying to hold things together, but he's a complete mess. I want to be totally fair, but tonight my 13yo DS was crying at me that he didn't want dad back and me to go because he's always crying and needs him (DS) to look after the smaller ones.
Such a mess. I'm being rigorously positive about dad to the kids, but he won't accept that he isn't emotionally ready to look after them, and I'm worried about leaving them with him. A few days ago he had the kids and I was staying at a friends nearby, he left them alone with 13yoin the morning and came and cried and begged on the doorstep, followed by a meltdown, so I headed home to be the adult, sort stressed out kids out and get them ready and off to school.
I just want to shake him. Whatever we're going through, be a freaking parent! Don't know what to do really. What a mess. Any words of wisdom?!
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Overwhelmed by split. Trying to get past the initial nightmare stage! Help!
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Totesoverwhelmed · 24/09/2016 21:51
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