Reconciliation after divorce

(2 Posts)
J4J Wed 17-Aug-16 07:51:07

I have been married for 12 years and have 4 children. At Christmas I asked my husband to leave due to his drinking binges. I have always maintained that I love him but that he needs professional help. He was diagnosed with clinical depression in Feb 2015. I have maintained that I love him throughout these last 8 months but after about 2 months he stated that he thinks he does not love me anymore. This came after me and the rest of the family found out about his secret cocaine use and running up huge debts. I am severely visually impaired and feel I missed non-verbal clues as to what he was doing. I know he is blaming me and needs good therapy but he cannot see this. On Saturday I received a letter from his solicitor asking if I would accept him petitioning me for divorce on the grounds of my unreasonable behavior or would I like to start proceedings. I feel I am being forced into this divorce situation by a man that is mentally unstable at the moment. I have decided to proceed with my divorce petition because I don't want him petitioning me first and I can't predict what he will do. Is there a chance that after the divorce a year or two down the line he will realise what a mistake he has made.....? and we can start to re-build a mess of a situation - at least for my 4 young children (ages between 5 and 10)

Moanranger Mon 22-Aug-16 22:23:21

So sorry to hear about your situation. To answer your question, yes, it is possible he could wake up a year or two down the line, but I expect by then you may well have changed. Do what is right for you now, & let the future sort itself out. Good luck!

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