How long did your divorce take?

(21 Posts)
faceymcfuckface Thu 04-Aug-16 19:08:24

I am finally submitting the papers. We're doing it ourselves and divorcing on grounds of unreasonable behaviour. DH knows what to expect in the reasons (if there was a 'we just don't want to be married anymore' option we'd be doing that) and won't contest it. No financial stuff to sort out.

Just want to know what to expect!

AnneLovesGilbert Thu 04-Aug-16 22:50:43

Mine was similarly straight forward, we did the finances ourselves, no DC, no lawyers and I was the petitioner. Took about 3 months. The guidance on timings on the .gov site were pretty spot on so go on that as long as you and your ex both send everything back promptly.

It might depend slightly on where you live, some courts are very busy. But it shouldn't take long.

Good luck!

Funko Thu 04-Aug-16 22:52:43

Grounds of 2 year separation. Applied 2nd Feb, decree absolute done and dusted in 13 May. Super speedy. East mids divorce unit. Top notch 👍🏻

MillicentKing Thu 04-Aug-16 23:01:26

Started Jan 2015, not finished yet.
What do you mean there is no financial stuff to sort out?
Do you have children?

DrPixiePants Thu 04-Aug-16 23:16:31

Mine took 10 months because I forgot to tick a box blush

I used divorce-online.

faceymcfuckface Fri 05-Aug-16 00:18:14

Nope no children thank fuck!

friendlymum67 Fri 05-Aug-16 00:23:29

8 years!! angry

friendlymum67 Fri 05-Aug-16 00:25:00

Sorry l lied - 7 years!

Minime85 Fri 05-Aug-16 08:46:12

I petitioned in the June and absolute was through by end November. We did our own finances too via on line consent order which just took a few months. You do have to do finances as well even if just to make a clean break.

MillicentKing Fri 05-Aug-16 09:07:47

friendly Stop being SO dramatic then!

I'm kidding, you've got to keep your sense of humour through tough times. I hope you are managing OK. It's grim.

annandale Fri 05-Aug-16 09:11:05

6 weeks start to finish. He's a closer. Similar grounds and situation. One nice thing my xh did was ring me on the evening when I got the papers - even if you know what's in the grounds, reading it is upsetting.

FreeFromHarm Fri 05-Aug-16 10:50:53

I used Divorce online, they are very good, submitted November 2015 absolute March, 2016.

Tuliptime Tue 09-Aug-16 15:07:05

Does anybody have any info / experience of whether or not it is worth paying for the divorce online managed service - their website claims to shave quite a bit of time off the process. I have paid for their cheaper checking service - and they're not even using the most up to date forms!! I'm ready to go, really want it done by Christmas, ex won't contest it but won't rush to return any paperwork either. Not sure if the extra service is worth the money..... Thanks for any advice.

Minime85 Tue 09-Aug-16 15:39:25

What service do they offer? They won't get preferential treatment from a judge in terms of speed to process. I did mine all myself.

MrsBertBibby Tue 09-Aug-16 19:02:59

The fastest I ever did was 3 1/2 months from issue to DA.

bangingmyheadoffabrickwall Tue 09-Aug-16 21:32:32

My parents took 13 months from petition to decree absolute.

They had to go to curt because they couldn't sort out finances.

My mum asked for maintenance since it was my dad who was the petitioner. He was ending a 'lifestyle' that she chose not to end. Or something like that.

It was terribly messy. My dad doesn't speak to me anymore. I put a roof over her head and as the decree absolute came at Christmas time, I asked my dad not to visit on Christmas Day. He had my brother to fall back on (I don't speak to him either - his choice - long story) whereas my mum had nobody else. My dad believes this was my decision. It wasn't. There were five adults to consider (DM, DH, MIL and our 2 BFF) and everyone said no, the atmosphere would be awful. I was in the midst of trying to arrange alternatives (mum was going to her friend's boxing day for a couple of nights )and I was literally about to tell him to come down Boxing Day for 2 nights when he messaged me to basically tell me to F* off! He cut ties with me, his son in law and his two small grandchildren at the 'click of a finger'.

Sad.

Divorce can be messy.

mrsbrightside3 Wed 10-Aug-16 16:22:20

3 months to the day. Divorced on the grounds of 2 years separated, amicable. Also sorted childcare arrangements and financial arrangements (2 houses, 1 business and 2 pensions) in that time.

Used one solicitor.

Tuliptime Mon 15-Aug-16 16:40:28

Bangingmyhead I'm so sorry to read that. Divorce is indeed sad and messy in many cases, what a shame your dad can't see the bigger picture.

Thanks everyone for the advice. Rightly or wrongly I've paid for the upgraded service, life is so manic I think I'll benefit from the help this brings, even if it isn't any quicker.

Chloecoconut Tue 16-Aug-16 22:24:13

Mine took 7 months from sending the petition in but that was using BSE which was slower than other centres x

ponyprincess Thu 18-Aug-16 20:10:40

I filed petition in April and decree nisi will be read this month. Tricky finances so not sure how long till absolut...this is also BSE which is nice people but slow compared to other Units

SillySongsWithLarry Thu 18-Aug-16 20:17:38

About 4 months from petition to DA. We had a financial agreement that stated that I could keep the house if I took on all the debts (equity = debt outstanding). It was 2 years before the bank let me remortgage to pay off all the debts and transfer the title so that was still outstanding long after the marriage divorce came through.

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