How would I manage practically if we split up?

[sheepflower]

Not really sure how to word this but I just need to get my head straight. Dh and I are not getting on at all and haven't for a while. However I don't see how I can manage practically if we split up. I need to know what the options would be. I feel like I don't have a choice but to stay in this relationship which is making me and the kids unhappy.

We have 2 kids, (8 and 1) and jointly own a house. I pay all the bills and mortgage but we have a big mortgage and the mortgage company would not lend that amount to me alone. I work from home flexible full time (self employed) and dh works part time and looks after the kids half the week (definitely not his choice). We can only afford 2 full days nursery/ week and even that's a struggle.

I don't have much family support, only my parents who live a half hour drive away. Dd1 is in a good school here with lots of friends so I don't want to move her.

Any ideas how I could make a split work? I realise I'd need to compromise but where?

[Rollercoaster1920]

And your partner is the primary carer. your situation is a reverse of the usual 'dad moves out to a bedsit, keeps paying the mortgage, can't have kids come to stay as the bedsit isn't suitable'.