Wise mumsnetters, I need you advice.
My STBXH and I separated 3 years ago and are in the protracted process of getting divorced. I have stayed in the family home with our 2 DC (now 8yrs and 6yrs), he pays his maintenance and all is fairly amicable. At the beginning he wouldn't/couldn't have the kids overnight due to his living arrangements, but after 4 months he was sorted and started having the kids on a Saturday night. He didn't want them for alternate w/e because he works on a Saturday, so this arrangement stood.
Now he has a partner (that lives with him), he requested alternate w/e. I agreed to this but I wanted them back on a sunday night, all fine so far. I offered monday night in between which he agreed to but never actually had them, it was too difficult for him!
Tonight we had an argument at handover, his partner stuck her oar in telling me to be mindful of the children, I could have swung for her, and he stated he was entitled to have the kids 50/50. That's what he wants and I can't do anything about it.
TBH I don't know where I legally stand.
I should perhaps mention that he is an alcoholic, has OCD and is a transvestite........but mainly he is an arse!
What do I do? What do I instruct my solicitor to do? Can he really just take the kids from me? Somehow I need it written down that the kids live with me and visitation is whatever is arranged.
I'm a very angry person right now, I gave up work to look after the kids (mutually agreed) and now that they are at a more manageable age he wants them.
Has anyone else been through this????
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He now wants the kids 50/50, what do I do?
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Gremlin120808 · 12/06/2016 21:06
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