Hi there,
I have three of questions regarding what on earth to do about STBXH
- Been trying to divorce since February this year. We've been separated 6 years and both very happy to get this sorted out at last. I sent the petition off in February and an acknowledgement of service was sent to him. I heard nothing so a couple of months later I called the court and asked what was going on. They said they'd not had the AoS back from him so offered to send another, so they did on 22nd April. They also sent me confirmation they'd done so.
STBXH is still adamant he's not received anything despite me double checking with the court that they have the right address. DO I ask them to send yet another? Or do I go to the next step of paying a bailiff to personally serve the AoS? This is going to cost me £115 which I can't really afford. Besides, if I do go down this route, how do I even know STBXH will be at home to receive it?
What would you do?
- STBXH is continually unreliable regarding maintenance and contact with our DC. He still owes us money from April and now is late with May's payment. He also owes a fair amount from odd months here and there in the past that he's not paid. This is causing me to become heavily overdrawn just to get by each month. His excuse is he simply does not have it as he is self employed and has not been paid yet, but he has sent invoices (same excuse but still no money to be seen). He keeps saying the DC are his first priority. I am in the process of selling our joint property so I know I'll get a bulk of cash from him then, but our completion date keeps getting pushed back and I cannot carry on without money from him.
- His is supposed to have the DC every other weekend. On Friday he ignored my texts asking what time the DC will be picked up. His moher offered to have them on Saturday for the day (as I'm ill with mumps!) seeing as no one could get hold of the STBXH.
He eventually messaged me Saturday lunchtime saying he left his phone at the hospital on Thursday but could pick them up now. This is very typical of him. He's left the DC wondering were on earth he is on several occasions. One time DS2 waited outside our house on the wall for 2 hours. He didn't show up . I'm really tempted to refuse contact until he can get his arse into gear and 1. pay us, and 2. be there as arranged for his children. But this would be unfair for the DC. Although DS1 would rather not go tbh. He rang me up in tears on Sat night asking to come home.
Does anyone have any wise words that will help?