I've done some research and decided that what money I do have id pay a good solicitor to sort out our financial arrangements and do the divorce bit myself.
STBX will have received the petition this week.
I'm about £1000 off my savings for the £3000 upfront cost to instruct solicitor ( yes could go cheaper but I like her ) but now he's received the petition , my question is , if he instructs a solicitor first to sort finances will that put me at any sort of disadvantage ??
I really don't think he will but if he did ?
He has acted fairly badly and I'm divorcing him for unreasonable behaviour of which I have evidence.
He has lived with his mum 70 miles away for 18 months and made no attempt to move nearer to his dc despite having plenty of disposable income He just spends and doesn't save .
He has a gf now and rarely sees his dc .
He often goes weeks without speaking to them , ignores his phone.
I have given up trying to help him because he just won't help himself .
Initially I wanted to be fair and go 50/50 ( and help him find a place and go to doctor with him as I thought he was depressed ) but 18 months down the line managing a career, a house , 4 dc and had no support from him throughout the last 18 months with anything .... Not illnesses, hospital admissions, parents eve nothing.
I know realise I have to fight my own corner and really want to buy my own place to start over . It did seem a distant dream but now just might be achievable . I have a mortgage promise and Im sorted in other aspects .
If I can get a bigger share of the house equity we might just be able to move one day in the not too distant future .
I didn't really want to go into Christmas having used all my savings , but if I have to I will . should I just do it or will I be risking anything by waiting until Jan knowing he might do this first ?
Many thanks for reading .
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I've filed for divorce. Do I need to be hasty now re financial order ?
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darlingish · 10/11/2015 23:43
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