I wondered if there are any other ladies out there who are in the same position? My stbxh has finally found a house to rent and the children started living with him Friday 11th September. He's been an absolute pig, they went to his with only the clothes on their back which was their school uniform and the books in their school bags! he refused to collect their suitcase that I'd told him to pack or anything so I was worried sick all weekend ended up feeling quite sick, anxious and pannicky all Monday!
I ended up taking their books to them at school in the end as I didn't want them to have detentions, they are in secondary school year 8.
I feel alot better having spoken to them and seeing my daughter but apparently he's told them not to see or speak to me whilst it is 'his' week with them, now my son's school just called to let me know that they had met with him at school and my stbxh said that it wasn't a problem if the children wanted to speak to me whilst they are with him, what an absolute liar!!!! He's also provided them with a blow up bed but told me that they are sleeping on the floor!
Does anyone else have to cope with xh's like this and how do you manage being away from your children for 7 days and coming round to the idea of it not being unnatural for your children not to be with you. I think it's just wrong, I guess I'm old fashioned but nothing could have prepared me for this and I always thought from the moment of conception to when they left home that they would be with me every day (except hols of course). It's such a wrong decision that the judge made, I shall never forgive him for it. I don't care what people say I'm afraid I'm on the side of children should ALWAYS always be with the Mom.
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bella1968 · 16/09/2015 12:44
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