Need some straight advice on whether I'm letting my anger at ex make more of a fight than needs.
Split 2 years ago. 4 children. They stay at each of ours half the week.
I bought ex out of joint property and live a frugal life on a low wage paying the mortgage on the home that will ultimately be their inheritance.
Ex spent his equity on a fast car and moved in with family rent free. He agrees to go half on essentials for the children. This we agreed on school uniforms lunches and travel. And other basics.
I still claim full tax credits and child benefit.
Some months I don't ask him for anything...this month is the most I've asked for £100 towards school shoes.
He likes controls so often comes back with no ill give you £80 because I bought them lego (for example). I argue that treats are not essentials. He says if I argue he will claim half my tax credits and benefit.
If he had living costs I would think that fair. But he doesn't.
Child maintenance options say I'd be entitled to £100 a month from him.but I'm scared to ask as he is a bully and would try and win my tax credits...this I understand is difficult but possible
If I lost my tax credits I would have to sell my home.
Basically I hate the fact he can still exert his power and control after all this time and I can do nothing about it.
Do I just accept tax credits is enough? Qm I being unreasonable?
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