Anyone got back together after a period of separation?

[cuppateaahhh]

How did you make it work?
How long were you separated?
Are you still together?

[Serendipitystardust1]

My DH and I separated after we'd been married about 2.5 years (I ended it as we just weren't happy any more). We sold our home and lived separate lives (despite attempting a period of 'dating') until by chance we both attended a wedding where we realised that we still had feelings for each other. We took it slowly but a year later we'd moved back in together, I was pregnant and we've now been back together for just over 5 years, have 2 DC and although life isn't always roses, and I do occasionally wonder where I'd be if we hadn't gotten back together, I'm really glad we gave it another go.

[cuppateaahhh]

Thats a really nice story, Im glad it worked out for you. Did you date other people while separated?

[Serendipitystardust1]

I casually 'saw' a few people whilst we were apart but wasn't interested in anything serious, I spent a lot of time trying to figure out who I was outside of being a couple and he did too. As a result when we got back together we were much happier in ourselves as individuals which enabled us as a couple to be happier. I love him and I wouldn't want to be without him but I know now that I could cope without him whereas at one point we had a very unhealthy codependent relationship.

[nearlyhadenough]

Dh and I separated for about 4 months back in 2002 - marriage had been up and down for some time and one day he had enough and walked out. I was not given any reasons.

We had been married for 9 years and dc were 10 and 7.

I started divorce proceedings.

Then stbxh wanted to come home. I gave in.

We decided to move house - get a real new start. Within 2 weeks of moving into our new house a 'friend' came and told me all about why he had left and lots more besides......

I made a decision to stay until my dc had left home.

13 years later I have seen a divorce lawyer for advice.

It was definitely the wrong thing for me to do - it is one of the biggest regrets of my life that I returned to him.