I'm really struggling emotionally right now. I made the decision to leave my partner a year ago after being very unhappy for a long time. He was mentally abusive, controlling, and very good at putting me down and making me feel inadequate. He made it clear he was never going to leave the family home. So I am renting a flat with my 2 children and he has them 2 nights a week and every other weekend. I have allowed him to buy me out of the house at a price only he was happy with, plus put up with a continuous stream of abuse via texts and emails and lots of other things, mainly because I do not want things to spiral down, for my children to witness hostility and to try and give the appearance of everything being amicable for the kids. However I am becoming really ground down now by his put downs and anger and hatred for me simply because I told him I couldn't be with him anymore. He has never accepted it, and has told me he never will. I have never even dared meet anyone else because I worry what that would do to the situation. So even though I am physically free of him, I am still not really free. I get so depressed when I think i have a lifetime of this. Sometimes his words don't touch me but other times, like today, I just want to curl up in a corner and give up. He says I am lazy, selfish, incapable of dealing with anything in my life, incapable of having a relationship, that I use everyone around me because of my inadequacies .....etc etc. I'm looking for hope and strength from other women who may be going through similar.how do I found the strength to deal with this? Will I ever be free?
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