Hello, im new to this site and hope someone is online to hear me. I have been married for nearly 17years and and have a 10yr old daughter who will be 11 soon. i left home to marry my husband and coming from an indian background my parents were not happy and cut me off from them. My mum came around 5yrs later but my dad never did and he has not seen or spoken to me since.
I thought i would have a happy life but instead it has been up and down and mostly full of fights, me crying and feeling unhappy. We fight about everything and anything, mostly about how unfriendly his family were to me when we married and him blaming me for everything. When my daughter was born i told him we should never argue in front of her and he was the first to break this. Things have been really bad the last 5 yrs and im at a loss at what i should do. We came back off holiday and as soon as we got home we started bickering which lead to a full blown shouting match, he then didnt talk to me for 2 months, we started talking again before my daughters birthdat and then a month later argued and didnt talk for almost 5 months, in that time he decided to enrol in a 3yr degree withiut discussing with me, this meant his evening and saturday were booked with studying and lectures, when we started talking i told him how shocked i was he would just do this. On and off we have argued and the last 3 years it has affected my dd, she tells me she is sad and does not like us not talking i have promisded her i will hever fight with him again in front of her but i can see she is still unhappy. We have not been talking now for 2 months. Today ge phoned me and we argued and he blames me for everything. Everything is my fault and nothing is his. I want to leave him but i suffer with anxiety and dont think i can luve on my own. I hate him. I dont love him but i dont know what to do.
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Indianlady · 23/05/2015 00:49
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