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Divorce/separation

Having some space 'vent' sorry

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RokensWife · 15/03/2015 10:03

Yesterday I moved out to my mum and dad's house (just down the road) with our 3.5 autistic son. Our marriage has been rocky, I've posted a few times under a different name on here. I've found myself increasingly distant from him for the past month and have been spending my evenings apart from him albeit in the same house. Even so, I haven't seen any 'fight' from him that he wanted to save our marriage. Yesterday morning things came to a head when he told me that I was 'weird and f*cked up in the head' for expecting something on Mother's Day and that I'm not his mother. Oh and I'm also a snob and think I'm better than him because i haven't been on top of my housework this week (I've had a tummy bug).
I'm at mums. We're in the way. I'm so homesick after just one night and keep wishing this was a normal Sunday and things were back to normal. He texted me yesterday to say 'by the way, he bought you xyz for mother's day but we know it's not about that'. Even after calling me what he did!
I feel so awful for splitting our family up. The thing is, we were starting to get everything on track and putting long term plans in place. I just don't know if I want to do it with him. But now I'm away (one night) I'm missing him terribly even though he's miserable and speaks to me nastily. He works hard for us and is a good dad. But I don't know if the love is there any more.
I'm totally and utterly heart broken and homesick but I know there will be a tiny part of me that regrets going back if I do. Again I'm not seeing any fight from him to salvage things. I'm worried I'm making a huge mistake. Sorry I just needed a vent.

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Marylou2 · 24/03/2015 14:42

I'm so sorry you are going through all of this. I really have no advice but I wanted you to know that I've read your post and and I'm sending good thoughts your way.

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